Welcome to the group and I hope you stick around. I am not married, so unfortunately, I can't know what you are going through. But, I have to say it makes me so angry to know that the man you love is putting you through so much!! I think the thing that makes me angriest tho, is this person who supposedly has had fibro for 15 years I think you said. She should know better!!! She should know what works for her may not work for you! OHHHHHHHH IGNORANCE!!! How I hate it!! The stress he is putting you through is NOT helping you!! Nobody can tell you what is best for you. None of us can say what you should do about your marriage. Of course we are going to angry that he treats you that way! But at the end of it all, its YOUR marriage! I only hope you it gets better for you!!!

Have you tried Lyrica? If not, maybe you should talk to your doctor about it. In any event, I wish you the best. Stick around, you have found a great place to scream, cry, have a pity party and sometimes even laugh your butt off

I don't think I have to tell you that you are in a tough situation. It almost seems like your husband is using this pain medication thing as an excuse to fight. I could be wrong but he seems like he won't budge and he has all of the information right in front of him, along with a loving wife who needs help, and a beautiful family. All he has to do is a little research (on a computer) and/or go to the doc with you and he will have the answers he needs. But since he seems so "stubborn", it seems to me he is really using you and your disease as an excuse for other unknown reasons that only he can answer. I don't know about you, but I'm sure you are uncomfortable with the fact that he can be swayed so easily by others about your condition. NO ONE knows how you feel but you. And he should defend that. I'm sure that the pain just got worse when you felt bullied into stopping your meds.

I'm sure he's a good person otherwise you would not have chosen him, but (there's always a big but), this sounds like a turning point in your relationship. Life is full of stress. This won't be it. If he won't budge and won't go to appts with you, maybe there's an underlying problem.

Summer

On my second marriage

I think that you should try to educate him and get him to go to your doc with you. If he was so easily swayed by a person who supposedly had fibro, a doc should't have too hard of a time convincing him of the reality of this illness. If that doesn't work, tie him to a chair and make him read the forums on this site. Maybe then he will realize that not everything works for every one. We are all different and it takes a lot of time, commitment, money, and support to find what is right for you. I personally use a mix of natural and medical things to help me, but this is new and I haven't seen any improvment yet.

I have to say that whoever said ignorence is bliss was incredbly ignornant! What a dummy! Well, my heart goes out to you! I want to you feel free to pm me any time and feel free to let it all out. I am praying for you and for your hubby to soften his heart and listen to you. I hope everything works out for you and that you stick around here and get the support that you need. I am looking forward to getting to know you!

Much love, soopergirl

We all are here for you and we really understand what your going through. Hope to hear from you soon.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel -- but it's a train about to run over you.

Terri

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devon