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Hello Everyone. I have never done this before so... I apologize in advance. I am 29 years old, have three children and have been married for 5 years. I was diagnosed with fibro 8 years ago a little while after I was injured at work. I was young then and did not really understand how this disease was going to affect the rest of my life. I went through years of this disease being "all in my head", as my husband would say. He read up on fibro one time many years ago and has not himself attempted to do any research or attend a doctors appt. with me since. I like many of you have seen over a hundred doctors been on many different meds, changed my diet, tried alternative medecine etc. It just does not work. I do not belive in alternative medicine, but I attempted it anyway. Anything to get rid of this disease. I did physical therapy, massage, aquatics, pain managment, injections etc. nothing helps. For the last 4-5 years I have been on a combination of Norco for pain and Prozac for depression. These are the only two that I am myself-getting any relief from. It enables me to get up and take care of my children and run my household, but It does not get rid of my symptoms it gives just enough relief to function minimally. A little over a year ago, my husband told me that he would divorce me if I did not stop taking the pain medication. I was afraid and did not want to lose him, so I stopped for a lttle while, but did not last long until I had to be put back on them. I kept it from him and just dealt with it until now. I told him about a week ago that I have been taking it. His big problem with it is that I am supposedly uhhappy when I am on it. He said that I have b een so happy while I was not on it for the last year, well obviously at that point I let him know that I had been on it and that my happiness or my moods had very little or nothing to do with my meds. I was unhappy because I have a husband that just does not get it. The things that he says to me sometimes is so ignorant. Basically, he calls me a drug addict and has his whole family convinced I am a drug addict. I only take those 2 medications and I take them as prescribed. I am aware of all the official terminology and the only bill I fit is dependance. I depend on it for relief and my body is now dependent on the drug and will withdraw if I stop taking it, but that is not to be confused with addiction. My husband called me on the way home from his father's house today. He had a relative that was over there that has had fibro for about 15 years. She told him that pain meds and anti depressents do not work and that I will not be able to have a life until I stop taking them. She got her life back with alternative medecine and changing her diet. Is anyone else disturbed by that? I am. Now, he feels like he has been validated. Here is this disease that I am living with and someone else gives him that sort of advice. It makes me so angry. So of course he called me and laid into me about my disease and how I have been so wrong about things. I am extremely frustrated with my husband.I get out of bed every morning at 5:30 am with my newborn and then my other 2 children wake around 7 and my day gets going. Thankfully I can do that much. I did not used to be able to, but I refuse to let this disease take over my life. But I cannot do it alone anymore. I am at that point where, your spose is supposed to love you unconditionally, and they are supposed to love you so much that they want to see you get better and will do anythiung to help you get there. The truth is, I just do not have that. Other than this situation, my husband is a very good and kind person, just for whatever reason is against pain medication... I feel as if my situation is hopeless and that it may be time to walk away fro my marriage. I feel that it may be detrimental to my fibro care and my ability to accept the fact that I have this lifelond disease. |
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Sorry!! Just by what you said and him having a relative that has aid pain meds are wrong and alternatives worked for her!! GARBAGE!!!! My sister also has this ilness and she has always done alternative and she still needs pain meds. She's very balanced in her thinking. Her daughter also has fibro and the mother of 2 boys, she eats good and does alternative and needs pain meds. It's good to be open minded but not everything works the same for everyone. Your husband talks to one person and thinks he's got the answers, well, feel free to tell him what I said!! Everyone is different and personally, if that relative had fibro and is "cured" may be shows she never had it or thought she did and never was dx with it!!
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