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Life is like a sewer. What you get out of it depends on what you put into it. Boy that sure says alot in few words. I sure enjoyed what you wrote about men. It is so, true. I can relate to what you wrote about them. I have been married to the same man for 37 years and I was one of those wives that carried his paper to him and would run to fix my self up just before he would come home from work so, he would not see me without makup after a hard day at work. I spoiled him alot. Would carry his coffe to him and pamper him in many ways. Never thought one day he would have to pamper me. Well, now he carries me coffee, helps run the sweeper, helps wash dishes and just even helps with laundry. Now how blessed am I to just have a man like that. I call that a real man. No he is what most women would call handsome, or a muscle man but, he is all mine and so, girls don't even think about it. I got my claws in this man so deep they will never come out. lololololol When I am hurting he knows it without me even saying one word. I try not to let him know how much I am hurting but, somehow he can see for himself the days I am having a harder time of it. He is not a good cook but, he is always ready to go buy us something to eat when he knows I am not up to cooking. Now that is for sure a man to keep right girls????? Hope everyone can find a man like mine. I am truly blessed. brenda  |
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AAAWWWWW! You have some good man there!! Although when you were younger and you didn't ACT like a liberated woman, but waited on him hand and foot, it shows you he DID appreciate it. As they say, "what goes around, comes around"! When you do things for your spouse because you want to, hey, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. Now your fortunate because he now does for you. That's love and respect!!!!! So enjoy it while it last.... Spruce |
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So glad to hear that you have a man who is willing to return some of the pampering you gave him. Well said spruce , hope it lasts for a long time May the sun bring you new energies by day,
May the moon softly restore you by night ,
May the rain wash away any worries you may have,
And the breeze blow new strength into your being,
And then,all the days of your life,
May you walk gently through the world,and know it’s beauty and yours.
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Wow you are lucky. My hubby offers to bring in groceries. I have made him go to Sam's club when we need fruit 2os as they are too heavy for me to pick up. He will help me take the dogs out at night. He will help me on things if i ask. I am lucky. He used to want me to be like Cinderella. lol I have dystonia, neuropathy, gerd, arthritis, and fibromyalgia, carpal tunnel and other ailments. I enjoy embroidery,music, and reading my Bible and Christian books. I love to bake. I try to be very supportive and positive. |
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Hello, I feel guilty when I can't do the house work for my partner to come home from work he tlls me that he understand that I am ill and new from the start that I was not able to do things all the time, he helps me in many ways but Is still feel guilty and wonder why he would want me many thanks for reading this claire |
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Dont feel guilty. You do the best you can. He is your partner. If you need help then he shoul help. I have dystonia, neuropathy, gerd, arthritis, and fibromyalgia, carpal tunnel and other ailments. I enjoy embroidery,music, and reading my Bible and Christian books. I love to bake. I try to be very supportive and positive. |
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Welcome Hunny, I think most of us here can definitelty relate! After always doing for others and for ourselves, to find that you can't do it all is the most difficult part of this illness (other then the pain)! It's like you feel lazy, but you know in your heart that you WANT to do things....we're not lazy, lazy people don't care...we care to much....it eats at us and we can get angry!! You have to now adjust to your limitations and do only what you feel you can. When we overdo we suffer for it Big time! Never feel bad or blame yourself or let any body make you feel like your just not "pushing yourself"! Many people look at us and see a normal looking person, inside we're dying inside and just want to cry!! I'm glad your here and as you get use to the site and surf around you'll find many just like you!! And I think it's great you have a very understanding mate!! Give a big hug to him (her) and say thankyou!! Spruce 
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Welcome Grog! I just joined yesterday. I love this place. Every thing I read I say, "Yes, Yes! That's me too". I also have a very supportive husband. He doesn't talk much about it but he knows how I feel by just looking at me. At first he complained about the house stuff not getting done. Then I gave him information about fibro, and without saying anything, he stopped complaining. He does all the laundry, almost all the cooking, and does all the grocery shopping. I used to like to grocery shop, but the cold just makes me lock up and I hurt the rest of the day worse than before. I love the blond jokes! I'm a brunette but at work when I'd do something really stupid I'd just tell my coworkers I was having a blond day. I also don't have senior moments...I have blond moments. Please keep posting cause you make me smile! |
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Guilt is a very strange thing really. It is a big part of what is wrong with us. The more we find we can not do anymore the more guilty feelings we get. The more guilty feelings we get the more we find we cannot do. If that makes any sense??? lololol Oh that guilt will eat you alive beleive me I know. It is so, hard to watch someone else do things for you will you just sit or lay down watching them. Many times I will just close my eyes so, as not to watch them. I even went so, far as to buy myself a pair of boze headphones that block out sound so, I would not ear my husband running sweeper, or washing dishes. Now that is bad huh!. He looks at me and laughs and says hunny don't let it bother you and that just makes it worse. lolololol Oh, those of us that do have loving families are so, blessed but, that sure doesn't stop us from feeling guilty at times. No we have nothing to feel quilty about for we truely cannot control what is happening to us but, those of us that have always been a type A personality it sure makes it hard on us to let others take over what we use to do for them. Did you ever in your life time ever think you would be sitting on the couch with your legs propped up on the footstool with a cup of coffee in hand while your spouse did all the house wook? NOT! yet here we are doing just that. I think this is one of the hardest parts of this disease besides the pain we go through. I know it is not the picture of my life I had in my mind many years earlier. lololol Well, for that matter I pictured myself traveling, with lots of money in my pocket and living the life of the rich and famous. cough cough that didn't happen either. Crap! Doesn't anything work out like we want it to anymore????? Gee life sure does get complicated at times. No fun anymore at all. Gee's! Give me a break! I want to party hardy! Well, it sounds good anyway. I guess we will just have to party right here together in our wonderful pity parties. lololol love ya brenda |
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