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morgantaylor
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Hey guys...I've decided to get off my meds b/c of the sexual side effects. Decided sex w/ my hub was suffering. So, as of 5 days ago, stopped taking the Elavil, Ultram and Cymbalta. I wasn't on the Cymbalta all that long, maybe almost a month, switched from Prozac. Stopped everything cold turkey, I know, I'm just hard headed like that. I've been having some good days, been able to calm the pain w/ tequila for now. lol I will say though, that I am a total b@#$%...my poor kids and hub! Anyone with advice to make this transition easier? Or does anyone know of any meds that don't come w/ the sex side effects of lost libido and orgasms? |
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KJG
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Going cold turkey on psyc meds could make your life infinitly worse! Talk to your doc about weaning yourself off, especially drugs like Elavil or Paxil. Your brain will tell you within 48 hours if your doing it wrong. You've obviously made it through, but word to the wise for anyone else reading this. Unfortunately, most psyc meds decrease libido, orgasms and lubrication in woman from what we've found. My wife has FM. She's suffered the most from everything. Hopefully your husband is understanding and that your sanity and minimizing your pain is more important to him than a dynamite sex life. You can satisfy him other ways, but from discussions with other FM patients, the side-effects and impact on sex are mostly universal. It's a cruel situation. Anyone else have different experience? |
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Fletch2ya
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I don't know much about alot of the psyc meds, but I was on paxil, and by accident I did not have my script while in TX and I thought I was going to die........... I mean so sick...... finally got my paxil and with in 4 hours I was fine..... well thats when I decided I did not want to be on paxil.... try weaning myself off...... that stuff is terrible... I mean to get off... it was for me anyway.... So as KJG said talk to your doctor before ever stopping.... the effects of going cold turkey, could be devasating...... |
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kychick
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I'm with you all on this NEVER go off these meds by yourself cold turkey. The withdrawals can cause seizures and possible death. You don't know what your messing with here and it could be devastating to your health so please be careful. |
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HAMPTON7026
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I just tried to go off all my meds and ended up with what I thought was the stomach flu. It wasn't the flu, it was stopping the lyrica without weaning. I go off my meds quite frequently since I feel better while in Florida. I go back and forth from Ohio. I have found out that you must, must, wean yourself off the meds were taking or you could have worse problems than sex problems. The ultram doesn't concern me, I've never had withdrawls from it but the Cymbalta and Elavil does concern me. I've have been on both and have suffered withdrawls from both. You really should try and wean yourself off these meds. Talk to your dr and see if there is any other med that you can take that won't cause your sex life to suffer. Live one day a time, Never give up the fight!! |
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ellie1
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NEVER, EVER, EVER STOP YOUR MEDS COLD TURKEY WITHOUT CONSULTING YOUR DOCTOR FIRST. WE ARE ALL IN THE SAME SEX-LESS LIFE AS YOU ARE, MORGAN. NO,IT IS NOT FUN. YES, WE SO MISS IT. PLEASE,ESPECIALLY THE CYMBALTA... I WAS WEANED OFF OF CYMBALTA OVER A TWO WEEK PERIOD AND I ALMOST DIED. CYMBALTA ITSELF GAVE ME A STROKE, BUT COMING OFF OF IT WAS THE WORST I HAVE EVER FELT IN MY LIFE, INCLUDING THE FIBRO. I THREW UP NON STOP AND HAD MIGRAINES THAT LASTED FOR TWO WHOLE WEEKS, NON STOP. PLEASE, I BEG OF YOU, DO NOT DO THIS WITHOUT TALKING TO YOUR DR. FIRST. FACE IT, YOU WILL HAVE TO GO ON SOME MEDS FOR THIS ILLNESS, WE ALL DO AND NONE OF US LIKE THIS. I AM NOT SAYING GIVE IN TO THE ILLNESS, BUT, SWEETIE, YOU MUST ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE ILL AND DO NEED MEDICATION. I WAS ONLY ON THE CYMBALTA AND PROZAC FOR ONE MONTH. I WAS TAKEN OFF OF THE PROZAC COLD TURKEY AND WAS WEANED OFF OF THE CYMBALTA. IT STILL MADE ME THINK I WAS GOING TO DIE.. CALL MY HUSBAND AND ASK HIM. PLEASE, I AM BEGGING YOU, THESE ARE DANGEROUS MEDICATIONS TO MESS WITH.. HANG IN THERE TILL MONDAY, TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR AND EXPLAIN HOW SERIOUS THIS IS AND YOUR HUSBAND IS GOING TO HAVE TO LEARN TO UNDERSTAND HOW ILL YOU REALLY ARE AND THAT THE FOCUS IS GOING TO HAVE YOU BE ON YOU ...AND NOT SEX. I AM SORRY TO BE SO BLUNT, BUT I JUST SAW THIS POST AND FREAKED OUT, SCARED TO DEATH FOR YOU. YOU COULD DIE FROM DOING THIS. PLEASE DON'T DO IT.. |
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Snoopy30
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ok here'as my two cents worth. No no no never go off meds cold turkey and without your doctor knowing. Ok that said I have to say the whole decreased libido ect happened to me long before I was diagnosed and on any meds. That was actually one of the things I complained about to my dr along with the horrible fatique and pain. Because I had had a Hysterectomy we had thought it may have been related to the hormone replacement theray after the surgery, but no matter what he put me on it never helped the sex drive. So for me it definately didn't start with the meds. did they make it worse possibly. Kinda of a what came first for some the chicken or the egg?? |
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singingangel
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My hubby has learned that sex =pain for me. My sex drive decreased from pain, meds, and age. He has finally this year seen what it does to me. He listens to me and then we are both happy. Good luck. Please dont just go off meds w/o telling dr. It will be bad for you and hurt dr. patient relationship. It isnt easy finding a good dr. Trust me on that one. I have dystonia, neuropathy, gerd, arthritis, and fibromyalgia, carpal tunnel and other ailments. I enjoy embroidery,music, and reading my Bible and Christian books. I love to bake. I try to be very supportive and positive. |
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anrtech
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I am very disappointed that you stoped your meds for that reason. Sex is not everything in a marriage. If your spouse really understood your condition, he would be supported and not worried about sex. I seem to remember my vows said for sickness or health. I have the most supported husband you could imagine. And I'm not talking about months it has been a couple of years now. He stays by my side and conforts me. We enjoy the other beautiful things in life. EACH OTHER. So if you thinking yeah right he's getting it somewhere else. Wrong. He retired early to take care of me and he's always by my side. Just remember sex dosen't make the perfect marriage. |
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ellie1
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BRAVO for YOU, ANRTECH! That is a beautiful testimonial to what marriage is REALLY supposed to be about. MANY people have had to give up sex... due to becoming paralyzed, medications, illness, whatever. Yes, we all love having sex with our spouses; it brings us closer emotinally. However, if we cannot, due to the meds we must take, or serious pain issues, our spouses' first responsibility is to understand this and support us. Not to be too personal, but there are certainly other ways to please our spouses other than intercourse. In my opinion, a spouse who resented our medications because he could not have intercourse is not much of a spouse at all. Marriage is about being supportive to each other, and loving each other no matter what happens. |
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