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had another bad day with the husband. he just doesnt get it. My depression is severe and he thinks I don't want to have anything to do with him or my child....and that hurts. He says all I want to do is lay on the couch. All he does is scream and holler at me, we don't communicate and he thinks that is communicating and he says if i didn't lay on the couch all day he would be able to communicate with me. whatever! He wouldn't anyways! he blames everything on me and doesn't care what the doctors have to say. He says he isn't going to pat my bottom anymore but screaming at the top of his lungs isnt going to help support me either and is sure isnt going to help my depression. I don't know what to do anymkore. I am so confused with everything. Even my love for him is changing fast! I know he doesnt understand all this but he doesnt really want to he just wants the old me back, well I got news for him, so do I, but I can't help it. And my doc said my depression probably wouldnt get any better unless for one my marriage got better and some other issure improved. We have been to counseling before but I am going to have to try to make another appt. He also has issues with money and gets real defensive when u mention anything about it even asking questions about paying the bills. I can't win for losing. I don't want to do anything, just sleep my life away. I have no energy, motivation, I dont hardly even want to do anything with my child and it takes everything i have to do it. I used to be the life of the party and make everyone laugh and have a good time...It's been years. Please keep me in your prayers! We even went to a marriage retreat recently and both enjoyed it, but that hasnt even helped. I am just stuck!

Oh I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I don't really have any advice. Just wanted to let you know that someone cares.

This is a scary situation for anyone. I do hope that you steps will be obvious for you. Until then, I pray you can find peace in just knowing it will get better somehow.

*HUGS*

I went through like ten years of depression after my son was born. I had some very bad episodes and I found that sunlight helped me a lot. Get out and go for a walk when you are feeling most down and it should make you feel a little better. Not a cure but it can help you get off the bottom.

i have to agree with Nitalynn...especially on days where the sun is out and no clouds just blue skies and it is a little cool so not too hot..It makes me want to breathe in deeply and smile.

I'm very sorry to hear you are going through this. Yes, I will keep you in my prayers.

This situation does not sound like it's going to be good for your health. Have you thought about maybe a trial seperation? Even if you could just get away to a friend's house or a relative, just for a few days? Then you could see how you both feel. I hope things get better for you.

Thanks for your replys.....walks would be nice for me, I need to do it. And we have had a few short breaks and that didnt last long and counselors that I have gone to in the past said that if u were going to stay together you needed to live together.....but sometimes I definetly do need a break though. We went to christian counseling. Thanks to all and have a blessed day!

Faith, Are you taking an antidepressant? If not you should talk to your doctor about them and if you are maybe you need to get your dose adjusted.

Who wouldn't be depressed living with fibro? I know I'm tired of the pain and it makes me withdraw from the world and take to the couch

I'm sorry you and your husband aren't getting along...he's probably depressed too...has he been to any of your doctor appointments? Maybe if he went with you to a fibro appointment he'd have a little more compassion.

Good luck sweetie, I hope you can work things out.

Hugs,

Post edited by: valc53, at: 12/26/2009 08:04 PM

faithsms,

i am so sorry you are having a hard time. All I do is sit on the couch and my husband never says a thing. He is so supportive. I could not do it w/out him.

My first husband was like that... a jack~a** and would not support me when I felt badly. Guess what...? He's GONE!

HOney, I am praying for you. You need love, support, and happiness even if you are NOT sick.... and even more when you are!

Life is too short!

I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.