I even know the "daughter is the ONLY thing holding me up" feeling as well. I do know!

I wish you the best of luck...

{{{{Fibro Hugs}}}}

I'm worried. I will pray for you.

Cindy

I'm sooooooo sorry you have this to deal with on top of everything else. I know what it's like. You can be strong and make the right decision for you and your daughter. When my daughter was 14 months old I had to make the decision and I left with the police at my side the clothes on our backs and $2.00 in my pocket. And the thing was the relief of getting out of the situation far outweighed the worry over what to do next. It was the best decision for both me and my daughter. Only you can decide what's best for you. Please get counsling to help you through this. You have to put your health and saftey 1st.

Karen

that's all I been doing since this past monday is thinking about what to do. i am battling with those voices in my head about the pros and cons .... of Him being put out, he has somewhere to go..We don't. I don't want to put my daughter through alot of pain,but she is already suffering anyway hearing us fight all the time. he is tough on both of us. she at times has begged me to leave him. I don't honestly understand why I have stayed this long other than for her. There is no love there anymore on my part. i just have no means of supporting me and her. He knows that. i have no family who can take us in. No insurance for the doctors and meds. he knows that too. he uses that, against me. But I know I have to take these steps somehow, I just don't know where to start.

Thanks again guys...this group is the best.

Betty

The first step is to get out. after that, everything else will fall into place. There are programs thru the drug companies and doctors offices that allow you to get your meds and drs care for free or very low cost. dont let him bully you! You are worth more than that!

Im here if you need to talk.

Hugs,

Amanda

My gosh, I'm soo sorry!! Listen to me...I was THERE...I KNOW HOW YOU ARE FEELING!! GET OUT, GET OUT, GET OUT!!!! If there's NO love on your part...GET OUT!! I didn't look to see what state you live in and if you told me...I forgot, but there's help there for you no matter where you are. There's welfare, DSHS, Disability, Food Stamps, lalala...it's there for YOU! USE IT...PLEASE!

There's no reason for you to go another day feeling and dealing with this. I did it~...If I can do it...anyone can...believe me!

You're in my thoughts~

I don't know your financial situation but my gut feeling is it's never good to stay just for the kids. They can tell you're unhappy & the stress isn't going to help your health it's just going to make you sicker & then who's going to be there for them? him?

Post edited by: bshapiro, at: 10/11/2007 14:42