Fibromyalgia Support Group

No it is not pain or fatigue or fibro fog. I contacted Allsup a few months ago but it was such a difficult thing to do so I did not mention here. I am at the second step where they asked me to answer questions about what I do each day. I have my phone appt. tomorrow and so I worked on my answers today. My husband is filling out the third party questionnaire.

I had very hard time answering these questions. I have been trying to be only positive these days, looking at what I did do and not what I didn't. I hate to look at the negative side of anything and always have hated it. But all these q uestions forced me to really look at the things I can't do anymore. It had the same effect on my husband.

I think tomorrow may be a bad day and I could use all the support I get.

Thanks

Traci

Traci, what a difficult time for you. You and hubby will be in my prayers.I will be thinking of you tomorrow. HUGS River

HUGS Traci, I hear you there sweetie

I have been butting heads with my almost 16 year old daughter lately and tonight I asked her why she was treating me so badly and she said she just gets frustrated that I can't do things.

Truth be told I get just as frustrated that she WON'T do things. There is such a huge difference but I don't think she'll ever see that. None of us wants to be this way. I still think I do a lot for what my body feels like. If I gave in I would do a heck of a lot less.

I hope it goes well tomorrow, try not to be too hard on yourself. The things that feel so important that we can no longer do will be replaced by things just as important and maybe even more so. Keep your chin up sweetie.

Traci,

You have my positive thoughts and prayers for a successful phone interview tomorrow.

Try not to stress yourself about it too much ...

Marilyn

Well the good news is that you don't have to continue to look at the dark side of our condition...Just take a look at it when they force you too....Keep your chin up sweetie...Let them see just how ugly this syndrome is and then remember all the good things you've been given by the Good Lord...

We love you girl...and it's completely normal to feel that way when you are forced to see and admit all of the limitations..It doesn't make you a different person though...You are still WONDERFUL!

*HUGS*

-Tara

Traci, I am a very positive person too and you still can be. Being so positive can lead to denial...the sooner you face your "new" limations and accept them, the quicker you can move on and reclaim your life. I'm thinking about you and sending positive thoughts for the phone interview, you will do fine. Don't be afraid to tell them what you can't do, don't sugarcoat it right now, the truth is needed if they are to help you

Praying for you Traci as well as your hubby. Echo the wise words spoken by Connie, Tara, River, OhCasty + Marilyn. Am a positive individual too yet if you are not totally honest with how this condition affects in each of its challenging way then you cannot always receive what is owed to you, or, even even get to the next level in recovery/better quality of life/ living with more courage. Take deep breaths. Trust that you will know how to answer their questions fully to the best of your ability.

After the phone interview take time out for you- pamper your good self.

Good to focus on what you can do, yet, vital to not deny or gloss over what you cannot do- the flip side of the coin. You can still be an optimist yet tell it like it is/be real.

Praying for you that you will have all the necessary courage you need plus all the uplifting you need after the phone interview. You will be okay.

God mightily bless you Traci.

Hugs, C xoxo

It is like a slap in the face when you begin filling out the papers. I think we all try to stay positive and that means not thinking (much) about how sick we really are.

Then we are forced to look at the situation in bright light and it nearly blinds us.

Honey, go ahead and answer the questions,be brutally honest on how things ahve affected your body, mind, and lifestyle. This is not the time to make things appear better. Have a good cry, and then continue on as you have been.

I remember being asked how I thought my overall health was and I answered "Good." Ridiculous. I was trying to be positive.

You will get through this dear. I think we all understand how you are feeling.

Hugs

Traci, lawsuits are majorly stressful but once this paperwork is done (as hard as it is to face) you should do your best to relax and put it out of your mind. Put it all on the shoulders of the good folks at Allsup....maybe have your husband deal with any communications from your lawyer...kind of screen them to see if it's something you NEED to do or if it's them just updating you. In other words, don't dwell on it. Let the lawyers do the worrying, let them earn their percentage.

The worst should be behind you now until it's time to actually face a judge. Relax....breathe it all out...

bless you!

Casty, my daughter was the sweetest kid you could ever ask for, very obedient and just downright NICE....until she turned 16. Then she turned into a smartmouthed little bee-yotch and I'm surprised we both survived. It was worse than her terrible twos.....but after a year or two of making my life miserable something changed (practically overnight) and she went back to being sweet and adorable. In other words...."this too shall pass"...I hope she snaps out of it soon!

love ya,