over them,all this anger and resentment takes a very serious toll on your health and on other relationships in your life I wish you both peace and I hope you find the right path.Malaluka

When I quit my full-time job years ago, all I could do was sleep. I couldn't help it. I was just completely drained. I remember telling my mom that I felt bad because my kids were taking care of me. I didn't know what was wrong with me. I was scared and felt terrible.

She told me I was just lazy. No one can be that worn out. No one hurts that bad Shame on me for expecting my kids to do everything. She never suggested seeing a doctor. She never felt concern. Just told me what a lazy, terrible mother I was.

We live very far away from her now. I do not talk to her (or anyone else for that matter) on the phone. She often sends those silly forwarded emails but that is all the communication we have. She is 85 now and in very poor health. I have made peace with her and I know she won't be around much longer. However, I am glad to be so far away from her too.

Thank you very much, I realize that my letting them go is the best thing for me also. After my lung sugery my father didn't even know I had it. And my mother was there. My mother tells me there is nothing wring with me although my diseases say different. And they are deadly diseases. Things that could easily kill me. I hear go back to work for the Board of Education, You really liked that job. And I did but there is no way I could possibly do it again. Just cleaning house is almost impossible.

How would she feel if I told her she wasn't sick although she has to go see her oncologist more often then I see mine. I hope and Pray that you hear happy things from you doctor on your test results.

kathy

((((HUGS))) Kathy

we all need "splashes" of JOY in the cesspools of life
3:16...........real joy