The Mother of all vents

Very long and very overdue. In one of the discussions it stated to avoid stress and negative people. How am I suppose to do that? When my mother calls and tells me there is nothing wrong with me go get a job. Your to young to be sick. My RBC's are to high, My WBC are to high, My CEA is to high, My BUN is to low, I have Fibro, Chronic Bronchitis, Chronic Pneumonia, COPD, Buerger's Disease. God knows what else and what to do cause I don't have insurance. I have no medication for anything not even RLS.

Then to top off all, my mother calls and tells me my sister and her boyfriend are getting married in Gatlinburg and they wish We could go. Why? When I married my husband we did it in Bullit CO. And not one of my family members came. And they were invited. . Not to mention the last time I saw this sister she couldn't get away from me fast enough.

My Grandmother is dying and not one person has offered to take me to see her. And everyone knows I don't have a car. I have 3 sisters and not one of them called me in 2006 after 2 major surgeries in a month. No Hi, How are you doing, Or Are you dead yet? Nothing.

My car. I had trouble with my car for over a year, or more back when I still worked my mother and Father in law took me to and from work because my car didn't work. I asked my mother if I could buy my grandmothers car. She stated she still thinks she drives it. Then turns around and gives it to my niece saying she asked for it first. And she thinks she is such a wonderful mother yet she smoke pot around her two very young children, then wonders why they are sick all the time. Gee I wonder???Not to mention when the children grow up and are dumber than a box of rocks no doubt it will be from the pot.Next on top af everything else I will have high BP from dealing with stupid people. Family members on my mothers side included.

She never even told my Father I had a lung surgery he found out when he hugged the Christmas after and I said ow.Didn't have a clue.

Then I've had dumba** people tell there is no reason to be depressed. When everyone else in my family is more important than me.

I don't mean my in laws or my husband or my child or sister in law. But WHAT ABOUT ME?

I'm not a selfish person really I'm not. Even after my sister's dog passed, I called and told her how sorry I was to here that.

When my Oldest sister found out she had Breast Cancer I called her to see if she was okay. Anything happens in their lives I'm there to support them.

And of course the only reason my CEA levels are up is because I smoke. The world according to my mother.

The only reason my Mother treats me this way is because I won't let her or anyone else dictate how to raise my child or live my life.

One day maybe they will learn the stupidity of their ways and realize they were wrong when they staqnd over my grave and wonder what happened. Then I will come back and haunt them all......

I might have a very small family and I do mean small lol, but they all love me so much and are so supportive to me. It's when I read things like this that I realize how much worse off I could have it.

I don't know how any mother could be so cold do their daughters suffering. It truelly blows my mind, and how could no one have showed up for your special day? Thats so sad that it makes me cry to think how terribly heart broken you must have been on your wedding day.

I truelly beleive that when we die God lets us feel everything we ever made any living creature feel, pain, sadness, happiness, this way we can see how every one of our actions effected others.

Some people make me so mad. All my life I wanted a sister or even a brother and then some people are blessed with a sibling, someone that should always be there and love them, and they turn their backs. It makes me so mad that these people don't see what a special gift God has given them by giving them a brother or sister.

I will keep you in my prayers and you just keep being the better person and maybe they will learn by your example.

~HUGS~

I am sorry this is happening to you. I think it has happened to many of us because you cannot see what is wrong. We understand the lab values but the average person doesn't. If I were you I would trick my mom into coming to my next doctor's appointment and let the doctor explain exactly what is going on with you and if she still doesn't understand. I would be careful how much I let her opinion effect me.

I am glad you have people who do love and care for you. That is where I would focus my energy.

I have a daughter who has medical problems of her own and one day we were meeting with her counselor and she got really hateful to me and the counselor told her, "YOu don't know how really sick your mom is, do you"? I think alot of people fit that question because they don't know how really sick we are. If we had a migraine or something they will give us sympathy, but I just don't think they understand the pain with fibro. because they have never had a pain that didn't go away eventually. Unless you have fibro I don't think you can understand hurting somewhere in your body every minute of everyday.

Gentle hugs to you and your son

First after my husband informed my mother that we would not be able to stay if they were going to talk about me. And it was at this same time I came in off the porch. I picked up my purse and jacket, and of course when my husband saw this, he began to gather his stuff.

Then.......the hardest thing I've eve done I did that day. And I feel freer and even to some degree a little healther because of my stand. I stood by my husband and informed my mom and dad that afther much thinking I did not believe we would be coming over anymore. I would appreciata of they didn't call. I told them that some families I guessed were never meant to be and I was afraid ours was one of them. Then feeling the strenght in my back-I could tell my husband was reminding me that he was still there. And I think that was the final push I needed.I asked my mom if she had heard Rodney tell them I had breast surgery, I kept looking into her lifeless eyes. I said mom, you didnt ask about the surgery, was it malignant, benign, radiation, chemo nothing. You totally missed the conversation. I could have just told you I had only 3 weeks of my life to live - and you know mom, I think that response would have been the same. I told her I didn't belong to this family. There was a glitch somewhere. I told them I would ask God to bless their lives, but Rodney and I had our other family and I needed their strenght. And they were pouring it out by the buckettful!!!! I don't know if that helpd your situation or not and others are going to think that I have done a very cruel - but I felt like a breath of fresh air on my shoulders. For us older ones it felt like the scene of Mary Tyler Moore was walking down the street and then turned around and through her hat into the air. That's how I felt.

O.k. I will shut up for a while, I now only have little nubs for fingers Best to all and bunches of hugs from whatever family you have