I am SO sorry. The last thing you need is emotional crap like that on top of the money stress on top of the physical pain!!

If you havent seen a counselor (or even if you have but arent currently), I strongly suggest you do. I work with rape and abuse victims and even if youve been through the counseling before, you should probably get it again - and thats WITH support from your family!! Your local rape crisis center should be able to get you counseling for free.

Otherwise, I would seriously consider either cutting back on time with Mom drastically, if not completely, or giving it to her pretty straight - my brother finally had to tell my mom "Look, i love you and you mean a lot to me. But Im an adult now and should be treated with respect, the same way I treat you. If you cannot treat me that way, I cannot allow you to poison me or my kids any longer. I would never allow another person to talk to me the way you do." It sounds harsh, but either it works and they at least learn to shut up or they get out of the picture and you're better off either way. but I know moms are tricky, so its whatever you feel most comfortable with, but I suspect you'd be happier without her around.

we're all here for you and sending you good thoughts and wishes and prayers!!