Fibromyalgia Support Group

Midnyte we are here for you. I am single because my ex could not deal with my fibro. I understand what you are going through. It was tough at the start but it does get better. I take one day at a time and thank God every day that he allows me to get up and deal with another day, even if I am in pain. After being on this online support group for a short time I have realized that I am truely blessed and that there are so many women that have it worse than I do. I pray that I could help each and every one of them. I will say a prayer for you and remember that you can make it on your own girl. You don't need a man to make it. I used to think I did but look at me now, 13 years single and I am doing just fine. If you need someone to talk to I am here for you. Gentle hugs,Renee

Midnyte, I'm so sorry that you are facing all this. Losing someone you love is never easy and worse I think to be sick and alone. I wish there was something I could say that would make things better for you but I don't think that there is. All I can say is that I wish I could give you a great big hug and hold you but I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Dear Midnyte,

I can hear your pain in the words you write and my heart breaks for you. I will definitely lift you up in my prayers and keep you close in my heart.

I suspect you are much stronger than you think you are. Midnyte, I know you didn't want to be in the position again, but just remember.. you have been in this position of having of start over before and you have survived! You will survive again. Not only will you survive, you will thrive!!!

Hold your head up high and walk proud. I hope you can connect with us again very soon. Please know, until then, you will be thought of (and prayed for) often.

Love and Hugs

Midnyte,

I was also in a very abussive relationship in my first marriage. But after 12 years moved on to better things for myself and my son. I've been through h**l in those years before my Husband and I have learned. If you are strong you can get through anything. You must be strong or you wouldn't have come here for support. If you need to talk post away someone is alwas here. Check in your community, there are places that will help with rent, and utilities. Call around and you will find assistance. I will pray for you in your time of need.

Midnyte, i am so very very sorry! you are in my prayers!

Mdnyte,

My prayers are also with you and I know exactly where you are coming from. I am 41 yrs. old and never been married, legally anyway. But 11 yrs ago I found the man of my dreams. I heard his voice and knew that he was the one for me. And we have been together ever since. My daughter's biological father wants nothing to do with her, he has not seen her since she was 1 yrs. old. But Jim, my love, has raised her and loved her as he does his own three children and she is a daddy's girl all the way. But we have always had our bad times but anymore it seems like it is more constant. His daughters moved out a few years ago accusing him and me of verbal abuse and they have always blamed me for the problems. I even moved out before they did so that they would be happy but he was not happy. Jim wanted me and my daughter back. And we wanted to come back also. We missed all of them and we wanted to be with them. So now we have been together straight for about 6 yrs without someone moving out. But here lately things have been getting bad between us. It was tough a couple of years ago but then last year when his dad got sick I helped out his whole family as much as I could then things were great between us again He even asked me to marry him and of course I said yes! Well, since his dad got better last summer and they do not need help from me again his family hardly talks to me at all. And at first he said that we are family and he was standing by me no matter what. Then slowly it get where he makes it sound like I am keeping him from seeing his parents. They live 20 min. from us and he knows that I do not stop him from doing anything especially seeing his family. Anyway, back to what I was saying, We are in debt pretty good. Most of the money is his from buying cars and also buying stuff on Ebay but he also used his credit card for stuff around the house and christmas presents. He also took out a $12,000 loan to pay off all of his other loan and his credit card once, that money also went to pay off my loans totalled $4,000. So I took over paying that loan payment and he was responsible for whatever went on the credit card and his revolving loan. I have been paying off my part for over 2 yrs. straight also I gave him most of my tax refund from this year, I tried that Ticket to Work Program, and this money that is coming to help the economy is going to help pay off the credit card again. But everytime we have a major blow out and he acts like he don't want me around, I will tell him that if he wants to split then we will. Well, the first thing that he does is throw in my face that I will be leaving him to pay off our debt because everything is in his name. So then I feel obligated to stay but I also feel like the only reason he wants me here is because of the money. Well, tonight was a big blow out and funny thing about it is it was over, in my opinion, me telling Jim that you can not just take alcohol away from an alcoholic so that they quit drinking and an adult can not make another adult go through rehab even if they are married. Jim says that this is not the reason that we are argueing but I do not have a clue then if this isn't.

We have argued about the situations that happens in the world. I was abused sexually and physically by my older brother and then I went through alot of abusive relationships, verbally & physically. So when we see a show about women that are being abused Jim says that if the women stays then she is stupid. He does not understand how the person being abused is feeling. That feeling that I can't make it on my own, or the There will never be anyone for me. He says that if a woman stays or even goes back then it is her own fault. So we argue about all of these different things. Well, he is sick so he stayed here and was on my case. First, it was who was I talking to. When I told him my mom then he comes up with He has not talked to his mom in 6 months, which is a lie, but anyway I told him that that was not my fault because I do not stop him from seeing his family or friends. Then we started to watch Intervention, that show, and then it was that the families need to get rid of the alcohol and the mouthwash so that she can not have any. I told him that it was not that simple and he said it was because she does not have a drivers license. I tried to tell him that she had been picked up 4 times in the last month for the alcohol related charges including dui and dusl. Well, then it was all I want to do is argue with him. He wants to know why I always want to fight. Then when I am trying to say my part then it is leave me alone why don't you just be quiet. So I told him that he needs to decide where he wants this to go. If he wants to stay together then we have to figure something out and if he wants to splint then I will find a way to pay him however much he thinks that I still owe him. I told him that I wanted to know by this weekend. I had decided earlier to get off of all of my meds except for my depression meds so not having them, the stress and everything else is killing me.

So I got back up from bed and came out here to try to talk to someone on here. But I did stop and take 2 darvocets to see if maybe they would help to take the edge off. They have taken about 1/300th of the edge off. Then I read Mdnyte's post and I started criing. Why is it that we can make it through all the bad apples in this world but when we find our one true love we can not even have that one without a fight to keep it. Sometimes, I wonder why God is making some of us fight for everything that we have there is nothing in my life that I have not had to fight for and for all these years I also have been trying to fight this s*%t and be something that my daughter can be proud of. But here we go again, I have to keep fighting fibro and I also have to decide if I have enough strength left to fight for the man I love. I will find out this weekend whether or not my daughter and I will be finding a new place this summer or if he wants to try to work things out.

Well, Thank you ladies, for letting me vent. Mdnyte I will be praying for you and I know that you have the strength to make it through this roadblock in your way. Let us just pray that Jim and I will have the will and strength to fight our way back to each other.

{{Soft & Gentle Hugs}} to all of you my friends. I hope that you all have a very restful night.

Angelbooze,

It is very hard to fight to maintain a relationship without having issues like fibro... or has always been for me. This horrible condition has led to so many losses in my life and I can see it is also the same for many others who suffer with it. Your post sounds so much like my life the past year or so, just different topics of arguments. I believe, as hard as it is, that there is a purpose for all this suffering and that I will find out what it is one day. I am doing my best to put my trust and faith in One that can help deliver me from the suffering, I just have to keep believing and be patient.

I am so sorry my post made you cry. I have been crying almost constantly the past week and find myself feeling sorry for myself. I am trying to fight the depression and added stress of this situation. It's not easy by any means, but I refuse to give up. If I give up now, then fibromyalgia has won the battle and on it's way to winning the war. I may lose some battles, but in the end I intend to win this war somehow! I will add you to my prayers and hope that you can win the battle and continue your relationship with peace and happiness.

Lots of {{{{{{Tender Hugs}}}}}} and best wishes.

P.S. I forgot to mention that if some circumstances work out, I will not have to give up my Internet and therefore can continue having my lifeline of support and friendships I have found here. I don't know how long it will last, but it just goes to show, sometimes we find solutions where it seems none are hidden. Hope that makes sense?

Mdnyte, I hope that you are doing better then the other night. I am doing okay. We just are not talking to good right now.

I am so glad that you found a way to stay on for at least a little while longer.

I hope that you have a good day

AngelBooze,

I am trying very hard to keep it together. Last night was very rough and today I've slept the entire day almost. To make today worse, it's the anniversary of my mother's death from cancer, so it wouldn't be a good day anyway. Thank you for your kind thoughts and I hope your situation works out very, very soon.