Fibromyalgia Support Group

My gut tells me that the fibro started back, many years ago, in developing, and it developed through personality and patterns we set up as children.

so in frank appraisal of my own personality, I am a type A.

Multi tasking? Honey I could multi mulyi multi task and then go home and pull weeds, make a quilt and bake a cake....

Now, My chore is to make the bed...its a success if I can get the bed made every day and at least one part of the bathroom cleaned.

Do some exercises

and not have a headache.

So tell me about your pre fibro life, did you go and do do do and do some more???

love,

Natalia

shoot I stopped making the bed why bother Im jumping back in.

alot of us here are helpers and fixers,multi tasking was easy but I wasn't super at it. and a people pleasier that no longer is the case..

OMGosh! Prefibro days! I would get up at 6am get 3 kids up,dressed,fed and taken to school.Id arrive at my school at 7:45,leave at 4:30 pick up kids,go home,start dinner,do up dishes,pick up house,start laundry,eat, go for a bike ride with kids,homework,put them to bed,fold laundry,take a bath amd hit the bed at 11. Now,i drag myself up at 7am,kids dress and feed themselves,some how manage to drive them to school, and VERY slowly do housework and sleep,theni drag out the door still in lounge pants at 3:30 when i go pick them up.Sometimes i make dinner,sometimes hubby has to after he gets home from work,kids do homework with some help from me and im ready for bed by 9:30, this new life bites....

I was a perfectionist at every thing I did. My house was so clean, everything had a place and nothing was ever out of place. I excelled at my jobs and quickly moved up ladders and got promotions. I spent a good deal of my life helping other people with all sorts of problems. I was always the "go to" mom, friend,aunt, sister, daughter,and so on. I was the one that always did the homework with the kids, did all the cleaning, laundry, taxi driver and so on. Now, well my house is a complete disaster except when my girlfriend or daughter cleans it for me. I only drive when I have too. I do just my own laundy once a week if I can, I can't remember the last time I actually made my bed. I think you get where I'm going???

Connie

Even tho' my Rhuemy and I both believe I had Fibro (or symptoms thereof) for many years before I was officially dx d, I remember going on 4 hours of sleep per night (and never a daytime nap)for a good number of years.

Husband worked swing shift and slept at all odd hours so besides working and taking care of things at home, it was always up to me to make sure everyone was where they were supposed to be when they were supposed to be not to mention lunches, $$$ and many times even transporting everyone elses' kids, I was the one everyone could count on all the time.

I even bowled twice a week back then (3X for several years) as well as babysat for a young couple down the road when they had sitter problems (this was before daycare).

Now, some days I am lucky to be able to come home from work and complete an evening meal and dishes.

Making the bed in this house has always been a problem between hubbys' swing shift and now that he s retired, he takes an afternoon nap so I don t even bother with the bed. Noone can see our bedroom from the rest of the house anyway ~~~ LOL !!!

Marilyn

I make my bed when I change my sheets...always have even though the rest of my house used to be immaculate. Pre-fibro I worked fulltime, cooked a meal from scratch every night, baked, volunteered in my daughter's school, had friends to lunch with, parties to go to nearly every weekend...

I miss those days.

I was a total type A. I even went through OCD behavioral therapy because I got to the point that before I would leave for work in the morning I would have to run the vacuum from the front of the house to the door so there would not be any footprints on the carpet. I would be at work from 7:30am to 6pm, then get home and get on the treadmill for an hour, cook dinner, clean the house and get to bed by midnight. I was able to get by on so little sleep. It's amazing when I look back and see how crazy I was. It sounds like most of us were like that before we became sick.

I'm sooo type A. I hate not being able to do all the things that I used to. The year I got married I worked two full time jobs and planned our wedding within 5 months. Up until a few years ago I always either had 2 jobs, or was in a salaried position that required 60 or more hours of work a week.

Now I have to veg out most of the weekend if I am even going to have a chance at working 40 hours a week.

I too had an immaculate house pre-fibro. My kids used to say it was like a museum, that I should charge just to enter the house. They were blowing it our of proportion a little bit, but it was very clean. Now days, my hubby does the best he can. He is working 12 hours a day, 7 days a week right now. (after being laid off for 8 months) I was the person always there to help someone that needed help, no matter what kind of help, or what time of day. I loved having all of the kids friends over and serving them lunch and/or dinner when I didn't work, but also did it when I did work. I worked at school and had the same time off that my boys had off. I never missed the boys games, I was their biggest cheerleader, cooked, baked, not just for myself but for others as well. Now I would love to be able to co one of two of those each and every day. Oh, I soooooo miss those days.

I don't bother with the bed. My husband or I try to take naps and I don't want to. My mother made us make the bed every morning before school. I hated it, and I vow not to do the same to my girls. How cares it's a bed in your room, close the door if someone comes over if it bothers you. I try to keep up with the house. The kicthen is the wrose for me. Everyone seems to dump things in there. I hate clutter and it can drive me crazy. But all I can do is my best . any ways, I always had something going on all my life to being 2 with scarlet fever 2x to asthma attacks and always being sore and having a sick feeling. No one took me serious, they thought I just didn't want to go to school. But between my high school and early 20. I did a lot more,hanging out with friends, working 40 weeks, and doing a lot more stuff I liked. Now I try to make it throught the day with the girls. Every day normal life stuff is a chore for me now. I hate it and feel like it took over my life. But I try to stay positive and come on here as much as I can. Talking with everyone makes me feel better.