Sunday My Mother called me, my Grandmother went to a nursing home last November. They called my Mother and to make a long story short. She (Grandmother) had fallen and hit her head. The Hospital said she has Respitory Failure, and has maybe three weeks to live. It stinks MY Grandmother is in Taylorsville Ky. And without a car I can't get there. I would Like to be able to tell her I love her one more time in person before she goes but I don't think I will be able to. Not to mention I'm sick so the last thing she needs is a sick person breathing around her. I don't know what to do? I'm confused, sad, lonely, depressed, it's just not fair. I know Life's not fair but this is to much. My Granny that's what I have always called her, I use to she her every other weekend until My Mother moved her down there. And called her at least twice a week. Not hearing her voice is maddening.

Sorry for going on and on, thanks for the release. Trisha. that's the way she spells it.

Here is what I did. I told my mom I felt I needed to say goodbye and had my mom put the phone to grandma's ear so I could talk to her. I told her that I loved her and I told her that if she felt it was time, it was ok and we would be all right. It made me feel better and I believe that granny could hear me.

Arrange to speak with her on the phone or speak to her. It may seem silly to some, but it will help you.

Sometimes, it is better not to see your loved ones in their final stages on earth. Keep the memories of your talks with granny and all the good times. She KNOWS you love her. All grandma's KNOW!

I hold my granny in my heart and my memories. One of the last memories I have of her is visiting her in the 'home' after rushing to see her because I was told she was dying. I found her with sparkling eyes and the humor that I loved so much about her. After a long visit, I got serious and asked her if she was ready to go to heaven. Do you know she looked at me as if I had lost my mind and said, "don't you worry. I'm not done here yet." She wasn't either.

There are reasons for everything. All the things keeping you from seeing her might just be her wishes that you not see her this way.

((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))

Post edited by: Matafleur, at: 04/17/2008 00:37

Try to call and talk to her. Even if she cannot talk, she can hear your voice. She knows you love her. Moms and Granny's just seem to know it without a doubt. I called my Grandmother Granny too. I could not get to my Mom in 98 when she died, but I talk to her all the time. She knew how much she was loved. I spoke to her every week even tho she had Alzheimer's and didn;t know who I was anymore. But in my last conversation she said to me " you take care of yourself and the boys" I have 2 sons. I did get to atleast say I love you to her. A year later, I lost my Granny. And again, had to say I love you over the phone. But I do believe they can hear your words, even if they cannot speak back. Hang in there. As long as they are in our hearts, they are never really gone. I so look forward to seeing my beloved Mom and Granny one day. And someone else said to you, maybe you ar better off not being able to see her in her final stages. Hon, I know for me it was true. There is a reason I was this far away when my Mom left. I have memories of her that are much better than what my sisters have to carry with them, Hugs to you.

I do like the idea that Matafleur has. Have someone put the phone to her har and tell her how much you love her and what she has meant in your life. Even if she can't respond, she will hear you.

Be wise and dignified like the swan: he maintains his composure, staying unruffled on the surface, while always paddling like crazy underneath.

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