When you are at the lowest point in your life- it's a little hard to laugh. I've been there. I can only say this....

We are so used to valuing ourselves for "what we do" instead of "who we are" it's hard to feel valuable or worth much at times. We suffer with a lot of guilt. What I've tried to do is think "I can't do the stuff the same way I used to BUT I can do something". It might sound trivial but if you had some energy or drive to bring in your mail- ya did something. More importantly is there something you can do that brings you some pleasure? -even if it's watching TV. I know it sounds stupid but moving from I'm valued for what I do to I'm valued for just being a person takes a while.

My heart goes out to you. I am really sorry fibro did this to your life. Maybe it sounds corny but we value you being here.

And Nicolelm18- I just got married and I'm 42. I got fibro at 29. I found a good husband so don't put yourself off the market yet!

So when people tell me that I should work I get angry and think I WISH.

my sister got mad at me last week for not calling her daily after she broke up with her boyfriend (for literally the 7th time) when after i was *finally* diagnosed with fibro, i told her about it and we talked in the two months since has never once asked how im doing, feeling, etc.

anyway....

i get tired of the 'well, when you feel better, call me and we'll do something!' - like im ever going to feel better and hey! i might like to do something now, just not go clubbing. if you genuinely wanted to see me, you'd come over for lunch or even call once in awhile

my very least favorite though is when people make remarks about 'working even when youre sick' and that people who really care just 'work through it.' im only able to work full-time because the lyrica has helped SO much, but i still struggle. and i know that one day itll stop working and im going to feel useless again.