did not mean to exclude the guys!

After bing in a wheel chair for over a year. I do what I can do when I am feeling good. Sometimes I do very little all week just so that on the weekend we can go out and do something. I know that I am going to pay for it later. I allow myself to do that because I know what it is like to be so bad that there is no option for me to get out and do stuff.

Last summer we took the kids to Bush Gardens. They were so great. I went on what rides I could. I sat and got the enjoyment of watching the kids have fun.

When we got home, I went right to bed. The next day my kids rubbed my feet, gave me back massages and waited on me hand and foot. They knew how much I gave them for that day, so they did what they could do to make me feel better the next day.

Even though my children are in bording school, they know everything I go threw. They know how much it means to me to be able to do things with them when they are home on brake.

So dont feel guilty for doing something that is going to but you in bed for a couple of days. God has given you then good day. Dont waist the good days that God gives you.

the saying " if mama aint happy, nobodys happy" is something that my husband tells to everyone. That has helped me out alot. That statement makes it clear to his family and friends, that if I am not around to let me be, but if I am around, things are better for that time. He had gotten a lot of respect from my family and the few friends we have for this.

So dont feel guilty for going out and having a good time every so often. It is good for you.

dragonfly

I have OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) and it took me a very long time, many years to be exact, to realize that life is too short to worry or feel guilty about all the mess. It's always gonna be there, in some shape or form. So, all I can do is what "I" feel like doing. Even if it means having fun for a day or two. - Yeah, we pay for the fun too. But that's okay.

You deserve to be happy! Even if for a day!

Amy

We have to learn to live with our limitations and not feel guilty. This is not anything any one of us asked for. People that love us will understand. Just do what you can. When you can.

He never says anything about it, just does it. I too, often feel that he is way too good for me. But you know....they wouldn't do it if they didn't love us.

Hang in there. Try not to feel guilty. Take each day one at a time. I promise you- you will learn your limitations, and with time you will learn not to feel quite so guilty.

It IS okay to do something for you on a good day.

Amy