Feeling guilty

Smile...it's contagious!

I go out and do stuff knowing full well that I will pay the price later.....

I go out and ride my horse....something I love to do...or just go out and work with my horse...... knowing the pain is going to be really bad because of it...... We have to keep doing ....if we don't we loss it....... don't feel guilty..... its the right thing to do..... I complain on here on how bad I feel..... even when its my own doing...... like going out and riding my horse........ you are doing the right thing....keep doing ...keep going...... keep pushing the envelop.... push.....

And if you hurt..... its ok...tell us...... that is what we are here for........

Craig

I know the feeling. I'm in bed for a week(s) or more, then my husband helps me get up on a day where i might need a "push." So here I am, walking out of the house, all dressed up for dinner and I haven'r talkied to my neighbors in weeks. Even worse, I haven't taken my daughter out for a Mommy/daughter day and that's the first thing I do. But sometimes I just need to take the first step. Even a walk. My husband has a way about him. He can give me a gentle push when he thinks I need to get out. But that Mom guilt haunts me while I'm out and it's difficult to have a good time.

but I believe the more we nurture and take care of ourselves, the more we have to give to our children, because we are happier and more relaxed and in better spirits all around. I just love that saying, "if mama ain't happy, ain't NOBODY happy!" It's taken me a long time to realize that I do need to make time for fun and recreation with other adults to recharge my emotional batteries and stimulate my mind. If I do this once in awhile I am less irritable with my kids and I don't resent their sometimes unrelenting demands on my time, energy and strength. When I get burned out on parenting, I don't sleep as well, or feel as good mentally, and I may take that out on my kids. Being a martyr is not good for me either -- always putting the kids' needs ahead of my own. So go ahead and enjoy your nights out...your kids will thank you for it when they see mom less stressed and in a better mood! At least, that is how it is at my house. I started by explaining that mom needs her special time with her adult friends as they need with their playmates and friends.

Then, they suddenly "got" it and now they shove me out the door when I go...well, most of the time anyhow!

thanks...

CRAIG

It's the same fibro fairytale told over and over again.