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O.K. Coolmamma, take a few deep breaths, Breath in slowly through your nose as deep as you can with your mouth shut, and then let it out slowly through your mouth. Do this several times. Concentrate only on your breathing. You need to get some oxygen to your brain. Another good thing is that very few people breathe properly. We breath we our stomachs not our diaphram. (SP) To help breath properly, lay flat on your back. If you can. If you can't then lay as flat as you can. Take a pillow and hold it to your stomach. As you breathe notice if your pillow is rising a good bit. If it is you are stomach breathing and not as much oxygen is getting to your brain and your neck. Then practice for days and days, but i GUARANTEE that if you learn this breathing method you can learn to do it anywhere when you fill like you are losing it. Leave the room if you have family and go to your room, go whereever you need to go to do these breathing exercises. You can even do it several times a day just for good breathing. NOW, if pillow moved up and down, press it to your tummy. Not hard, just hard enough that you can feel the pillow lie beneath your hands. Flatten both hands on your pillow and learn to slowly breath in. If your pillow is moving, press it down a little bit and breath in again, only this time concentrte on breathing with your chest and not your stomach. It takes practice, but if you are out in public you can do it at a restaraunt table and no one will ever know. You will have strendthened you chest and lungs. Next, I would call you vet. Sometimes when little puppies don't sleep and cause an elderly person to lose sleep that is not safe. He can tell you a safe dosage of Elavil to give your puppy and she will sleep through the night. Its the same meds they give to older dogs who start having trouble with nerves. But don't guess on the dosage, call you vet. It's also good to have around if she should grow up to be frightened by storms and loud noises life fireworks. We're praying for you. I promise you, work on those breathing exercises, you will notice a difference. I'm speaking to myself here to, because I'm just as bad, but we have to strife to STOP the stress. Give your friend a few days. After that try a phone call. You can just do so much. And try not to overexplain that you didn't this and you didn't that. Just tell her, look we have been friends ?. I love you, would hate to lose you as a friend. We could discuss this until we are blue in the face, but lets just let our friendship absorb the hurt, and let it go. That's about all you can do. And of course pray. And if you get a chance to talk to her. Don't argue, raise your voice, just continue to say I want to be your friend - is that going to be possible. Prayers your way, relax. Be selfish. Take care of you. Sometimes that is the only way us fribros can get through one day to the next. PM if you'd like. Imaginary bubbles of joy and relief and understanding blowing your way ((((HUGS))) Kathy
we all need "splashes" of JOY in the cesspools of life
3:16...........real joy
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I haven't cried like this in a long time! I want so bad to talk to her, but I think she's not ready. 
