He has severe anger issues, a short temper, and constantly opposes and defies me and acts out physically with his younger brother. Younger brother complains that he gets away with it because "you are always in bed, mom, and don't come out of the bedroom to deal with him." Every issue that a single parent of an ADHD child is magnified when you have fibromyalgia/CFS, and so little energy to cope with it all. The stress of dealing with my son's anger,defiance, frustration with school, emotional outbursts, bullying, and short attention span (always losing things) will often trigger a flare for me, leading to me spending even more time down in bed.

I agree with you, I don't know how I've managed to just survive some days, they have been so rough. When my ex finally takes the boys for his weekends twice a month, I collapse into bed and sleep. and it takes me most of the weekend to recover my strength. Of course, my ADHD son doesn't have a good, regular sleep schedule

and often is up half the night. I am grateful to have these weekends to rest and recover. If I may ask, how old is your hyperactive child? Each age has its own unique issues and challenges.

The little boys were snoring at night and went through the sleep apnea testing at a sleep clinic and it was shown that they didn't sleep enough at night, which caused them to act out.

Looking back now at my oldest and his behavior and the fact that he did not breath well through his nose (diviated septom, possibly).

I wondered if that is what caused his ADHD (never diagnosed, this was years ago)

Other than that, I feel for ya so much, I couldn't imagine dealing with that AND Fibro.

My pet peeve with the medical profession, is they are treating symptoms (and not very well) when there has to be a core problem.

If I were you, I would find a cutting edge doctor who may be able to find a core problem.

ADHD, like Fibro are symptoms of something else that they just 'won't' get to the bottom of.....My opinion.

Good luck to you, be your own doctor and seek alternative options

well my oldest is 8 and he has it the worst becasue of the ODD aswell it really compounds the anger issues for him... and myyoungest is also diagnosed with it he is 6 years old and boy can i ever relate to the exhaustion ... when they are together they seem to ignite like a propane bottle all lit up hahaha they seem to feed off of oneanotehr and it can seem like the world is going to end at any minute... when i feel really bad i also get told that i let things slide... I am not a single parent but my husband is not their biliogical parent ... theri father walked out when my youndgest was a new born and he never botehred to look back wither.. my husband is awesoem with the kids but when you through their issues and mine into the mix he just gets soo fustrated sometimes... I cant imagine how on earth you are dealing with this all single handedly you are AMAZING!!! its really wounderful to know that im not alone in this struggle too.. not that i am happy that you are going through this but i really felt like i was the only one... I havent met any one else that has FMS and adhd kids.. so its really awesome to meet you... I hope we can get to know eachother better and have a few good laughs when we feel like throwing in the towel to hide heheheheh thansk so much for sharing with me and this topic

I admire your honesty, and I'm so glad you have a supportive husband. It's hard on the whole family, but we take it a day at a time and do the best we can.