So I'm new to this, but I have an issue I've been dealing with the past few days... I have been dating my boyfriend a little over a year, and I told him not long into the relationship about FM, and just the fact that I have a lot of health issues. I mean, it doesn't cause too many problems that should effect him, just that he has to listen to me when I complain about not feeling well (which I try not to do often). And at one point when all of it got really bad I said to him "you're going to get sick of all my health issues eventually." He promised he wouldn't, but lately I think he has. When something goes wrong, when we fight about something, he brings up my FM and seems to throw it in my face as if I'm using it as an excuse, which I'm not. I just don't know what to do. I mean, I love him, I really do, but it is getting so annoying. I want someone who supports... I guess I was wondering if anyone else has had this issue at all? And how you've delt with it?

Thanks!

Jackie

I saw in your profile that your attending college & I'm guessing you are still quite young?

I think I have to go with oldglory on this one & dump him or run. If he truly understands he should not get on your case that much. But then young lovers have many quarrels if I remember correctly. Is this someone you can see spending the rest of your life with? If not, the added stress is probably not doing you or your studies any good.

I guess you can tell I'm the parent of two college students. If you so some more searching & reading on the forums you will see quite a bit on relationships.

You need to do what is best for you.

There are a lot of boyfriends/girlfriends/wives/husbands/SO's out there that DO understand and support us! Then...there are those that just don't. Some just can't! They don't know how!

But let me tell you girl...I've been with both and you DON'T want to spend your life with someone who's throwing Fibro in your face!!!! No, No, NO!!!

Sorry to sound soo negative, but it is what it is!

We know that stress causes more pain and we need our 'other half' to help us...not hurt us more!

Please, think about this...HARD!!!

Feel free to pm me anytime! I hope you find all of the support you're looking fore here! This is an AWESOME group! Stick around!!

Best of luck!

{{{{Fibro Hugs}}}}

Post edited by: sweetheartsuzee, at: 03/05/2008 09:31

I was in a relationship for 6 yrs. We were high school sweethearts, went to college together, and I really thought we were going to get married. We got to the point where we fought all the time, and all though he didnt throw FMS in my face, he wasnt supportive. It made everything so much harder than it had to be since he wasnt. My FMS got really bad, and I was experiencing other health issues, that believe it or not seemed to go away after I'd ended things with him...

Just in general relationship terms, everyone needs and deserves someone that is supportive, and loving. Someone they can count on to be there. If your guy hasnt been supportive, most likely he never will be.

I'm here if you want/need to vent to someone, even if you decide to try and keep going at it. I know how hard it is!

Good LUCK

now, like glory said.....RRRRRUUUUUUNNNNNN, AND RUN FAST!!!Ask youself some questions: will he be there for me when it gets really bad, if he had ball tickets, concert tickets and you tell him you can't go - how will he respond on nights he wants sex, but you can't? And then when these items above or many others like them, will he still be there supporting you? I know young love is fascinating and scary all at the same time, but this is serious business. Maybe make a list, a good side and the bad side - after you've donet lots of thinking. And if the bad side wins, honey don't just run...... ask Scottie to "beam you up!!!) I hope you are old enough to know this is a famous saying from the original Star trek. Don't want to discourage you honey, but if you see these signs now, what will it be like later? HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY (yeah right she says...) Kathy

((((HUGS))) Kathy

we all need "splashes" of JOY in the cesspools of life
3:16...........real joy

Debbi