I have had my husband at the VA for the past 3 days and I'll just say I HATE THE VA and that they did nothing at all. So I spent yesterday being in a lot of pain and actually fighting with my husband. We are a under a huge amount of stress and it's showing in our marriage. Hubby was supposed to be unpacking yesterday but he didn't he just watched tv, so while he's at his momma's today i gotta unpack the rest of the house and at least make it look livable and so that we can walk through the house.

I hope to be on more soon. I have also been busy looking for a job and I just can't seem to find a job either. I have never had a problem getting a job and it's getting really frustrating cause the hubby is getting mad cause I don't have one and we have the rent due soon. Needless to say I'm under a great amount of stress.

Then, you have to remember there is a reason u took him to the VA. He too is evidently sick. Whether its depression or whatever it is, u know already that u feel bad all over. That's why he's laying around. Cause he's not well either. Give him that. Remember hes there for u, hes just like you r right now, stressed, and it does alot of bad things to a marriage. Try not to fight with him it hurts u way more than it hurts him. Not only emotionally but physically. Don't hurt yourself like that is the pain worth it, no, so just try to get away from him if u can when hes ready to argue. you don't need it and u surly don't deserve it. ur a wonderful person don't stoop to his level by giving him what he wants, ok, Now as far as work you need to do what I'm doing, go to the closest family assistance center and let them know u need help, with everything u need. Also go to the pharmaceutical sites and get an application have your Dr. fill his/her part out and get the paper work in the sooner u get this done the better your marriage will be. The same for me, i have to do it today, so i can go to the doctors office in the morning.. I hope that i haven't stepped over the line,with ur problems. i just feel u needed to know what can help u and ur marriage. Sometimes we have to as women do what ever it is to make our loved ones feel better right or wrong. Good Luck Oh yea. do not worry about work NO-ONE is going to hire you.Just forget it, for now.