kychick
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I agree with Teain,and unfortunately the depression goes with it too. I have several books I can recommend to you that are excellent and may help enlighten your husband too,if you're interested just pm me and i will give you the titles. It might help to see a counselor for your depression. I compare chronic illness the same as the grief of death. You are grieving the old you and trying to deal with this new way of life that you didn't choose,but you and your husband have to learn the best way to deal with it. At first the dx is a shock.Then you go through the denial.Then comes the denial and the why ME?Then the you try to bargain with yourself if I could do this this and that maybe I'll be my old self again.Then you enter the depression stage.Then comes the testing and trying new meds of all kinds and different treatments. And finally the acceptance and with that comes a certain type of peace. I'm not saying you won't stop trying to find ways of making yourself feel better and praying for a cure,but you learn to accept the things you can do and accept the things you can't. It doen't happen overnight,it takes time,and it will take your husband time also. Dont shut each other out,talk,talk and talk some more. I am seperated at the time and we are going through counseling to try to work this out,which is something I wish we had done before we seperated.If there is anything I can do,please let me know.We are all here to help..... |
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