Fibromyalgia Support Group

I haven't been on here much this week. I have read thru some threads though. I know all of us are going thru things, some more than others. My husband told me a couple days ago that I seem distant and don't seem to want anything to do with anybody. I am a couple weeks into my new meds. I don't know if that's what is making this way or not. I just feel like I'm in my own little bubble. My 21 yr old stepson has become a permanent fixture for the summer. Funny how someone so quiet can work my nerves that much. My dog is finally better by the way. I just can't seem to care about much one way or the other. We are behind on bills. We both work but neither of us make a lot. Both sons need their drivers licenses. We don't have the money for cars and we live in a tiny town too far away from bigger towns where they could get jobs. They are 18 and 21. The 21 yr old will go back out of town to school in August he gets loans and financial aid. The 18 yr old will commute a half hour to school. We have 2 vehicles that my husband and I drive to work that constantly need something fixed.

So it goes round and round in my head. They need to find jobs but have no way to get to them without money for car and insurance and without jobs there is no money. I know I'm rambling on. I just can't seem to clear the fog from my head to even make a sensible decision about anything. My husband just got a second job but with the way the hours are working out I don't know if it is going to help much. I get so tired and can't work up the energy to do all I need to do around here. So, here I sit. Just pouring it out. I'm just stumped. Anyway, I don't know how much sense I've made but I just felt like getting some of this off my chest. I just keep thinking somehow something is finally gonna go right. Then days like today I think they are never gonna get better.

Oh sweetheart - I wish I had a magic answer - - for both of us.

But - - - - - - I can send you lots and lots and lots of hugs.

Hugs always help.

Much love.

Faerie

Faerie, thank you. Hugs do help. I know you don't really know me yet. But, I am glad to see you back here. I have sent prayers up for you and your family while you were away. Hugs back to you. Chris

Thank you pianogirl. I know at some point the fog will lift a little and maybe I can think things thru better. And it does help to know I'm not alone. Hugs to you.

Thank you so much love. I am sure we will chat soon, Hang in there,

love,

it could be some med related, be sure your husband keeps an eye on you and if it doesnt break son talk to your doc..

oh how I know the struggle with near adul to adult kds my 21 yr old daughter got her drives liecens last week,

we live way out in the middle of no where(Gods country), and when my kids were ready to get jobs t was almost imposible, luckily I didnt work but the no money gas sohigh and something always going wrong...

this is what we did with our sons..Im going to make this suggestion..and I know always easier sad the done..but they are old nough and need to work..first they have to get their liecence it is a must, then they can work oposite shifts then you.if you are morning day job they need a night job, we had our kids ave their checks and put a down payment on their own vechicals, two to three full checks...this helped in alot of ways one, they worked two they had to keep working to pay for their car...and they were to pay their own nsurance though we let them on our coverage..I thought for ever we were in a hole with no way out..I felt like I failed them and held them back..I was the one who had to teach them to drive,I never thought we would get through..

the kids hav to learn sometimes things have to be hard so they can get better..can they drive yet? due they have to learn?

Hi Chris, yeah, maybe you just need to be "sad" for a little while (although watching while you are getting used to the new meds is a good idea). I have had to let myself be sad for the past couple of weeks, because the family situation called for me to let myself be sad--no pep talks, no magical thinking that shazam! everything would be FINE!--and letting myself feel this emotion has actually let me slowly make some decisions that will help later. You may just need to let any solutions work their way up into your head, rather than forcing them. Can the younger son move in with a friend in town to find a job? Or the older son?

Hang in there rslove! hang in there

Thank you all for your comments and suggestions. I have told my husband to keep a watch so I don't get too far gone. The 18 yr. old is a pretty good driver. He just needs a little fine tuning and he will be ok. Broken, what you said is probably how it will have to go. He can get an evening or night job and pay for his own insurance and put money on a car. In my fog, it never occurred to me to use the car in shifts. I know that sounds odd, but when you said that I was like "duh" I should have thought of that. I'm a pretty bright girl, or at least I used to be, but anymore regular thinking kicks my butt. The 21 yr. old stepson has some issues. He has been tested for cerebral palsy and other things. He used to have seizures where he would just blank out. He isn't doing as well with driving. He did work at walmart for about a year before my husband and I remarried and they lived in town. He is only here for a few weeks. He got into a technical college about an hour and half from here and he stays there most of the time. I'm not quite as worried about him because he will be leaving. Not that I don't care but, he isn't my direct responsibility like my son is. I can only handle what I can handle and I feel he and his dad need to work things out more for him. He can function ok or he wouldn't be making it in college. I hope that didn't sound mean.

Yesterday I just felt like the whole world was sitting on my shoulders and I didn't feel well of course, so that didn't help. I slept 12 hours last night so for the moment, I don't hurt much and I'm not quite as foggy. I know the feeling that you've failed your children. I never have much money to give them and I feel bad a lot and I feel like they've had to be too independent too soon. This is getting long. You guys are great and I appreciate you. Hugs.

Thought I would let you all know I'm doing better. The aches and fog are still here of course but, not as bad yesterday and today. The bills are still sitting there and the car is waiting for a part but, I'm handling it better at least. My husband started his second job today and we were able to ride together. That helps so much and we don't have a choice for the next couple days til we get the part for the car. We drive about half hour one way and his job now is a mile from mine so we can save a lot on gas the more we can ride together. I wanted to thank you all again for being there to listen and support when I was having a very rough time. Many hugs and love to you.