Sex Life With Fibromyalgia II

Post edited by: bshapiro, at: 02/04/2008 12:25

Anyway, NO! You guys didn't scare me off. I am soooo glad to be able to talk about the way I feel about my sexlife. My husband and I got married 3+ years ago and he had an EXTREMELY high sex drive while I did not. However, since (bless his heart) he didn't seem to see the importance of RESEARCHING fibro, he didn't know that lack of sex drive is a part of fibro. I researched it and I think I read it, but if I did I forgot to tell him about it. Ya'll, trust me, my memory is a HUGE part of fibro. ANYWAY...

So far, a friend of mine with fibro mentioned to me to try obligating (ooo, harsh word) myself to twice/wk at least, more if I'm up to it. Then my husband doesn't start getting desperate, which leads to him getting upset, feeling undesirable to me, etc., etc., etc...

It seems to be working for me - whaddyathink?

HANG IN THERE, YA'LL!!!

I didn't know that was a symptom or side effect of fibro though...interesting. I just figured it was because well, I'm on medication that it could be a side effect from that, or the depression, or the pain...well I guess it couldbe a combination!

I'm gonna shoot for the two times a week thing, I gotta throw him a bone, poor guy. We used to be CRAZY, at least 2 times a day before....talk about a shock to your system!

Post edited by: BeachBum, at: 01/30/2008 10:51

I have to ask something a bit blatant or direct, if you guys don't mind... Do any of the women in this group have sharp pains emanating from the cervix during intercourse or severe cramping afterward? This has caused so many problems with my marriage! I have, as was said earlier, that Pavlovian response to the idea of sex and orgasm, just AVOID IT whenever possible because the sharp pain during and the cramping afterward is just not worth the enjoyment of the moment! In the meantime, my husband has been going a little bonkers while he plays the waiting game! Sometimes we go months at a time between intimate moments. I guess it's a good thing that he at least TRIES to be patient and understanding!

Anyone else suffer this particular way? And more importantly, has anyone found a way to deal with it? My docs are useless when it comes to this topic! They don't even give me decent pain meds that I could use ahead of time or something, ANYTHING!!!

Have you spoken to your OBGYN? Maybe your barking up the wrong tree with your reg doc. Your OBGYN should be able to help you more I would think, and if not, find one that will! You shoudn't be having that much pain, and there could be another underlying cause...

Goodluck, and I hope you are feeling better!

Do you have a female Gyn?

Have you had your hormone levels tested?

It can be some of the medications.

I'm sorry for those of you that have painful intercourse, I really don't have any feeling in the vaginal area. However I do get painful leg spasms. She told me that 60% of women don't have vaginal orgasms. Just the other kind (you know the word)

Anyway, she said I should experiment with myself & see what works & go from there with my husband.

I am going to make arrangements to change my GYN to a female, I think they are so much easier to talk to. I did get my hormone levels checked from my primary & they are fine. I'm tapering off my Cymbalta, so maybe I'll get some drive back

P.S. I always find Spooning the best & least painful.