kychick
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Tonight we met for that final talk he felt we had to have. He told me he had been unhappy for about 6 to 8 months. I told him he had been making all of us unhappy for about a year. He said he was tired of being mad all the time at me. I wanted to know what I had done to make him feel that way all the time. I always knew when I was well we got along good,when I was sick he seemed to always be mad, He said it made him mad that he didnt have his socks folded and in the drawer and there was always dirty pans on the stove or dishes in the sink. I would tell you what I said but it wasn't very nice .I looked at him and said that you mean to tell me you ended a 20 year marriage over stupid crap like that. It just got worse after that. How can you be married to someone that long and never really know them.Then my sister calls in the middle of it,he was in the bathroom and she said something that made me laugh and he asked me if I had a date lined up. I reminded him that HE was the one that ended it and it is none of his business now what or who I do!!!! I have spent the last 29 years of my life raising 3 kids and 2 husbands and I an SOOOOOOOO done with it.From now on it's all about ME first. the girls are old enough now that they don't need me in the way they used to. We hang out and have fun together. I'm past the pain but I am so confused as to how someone promises to be there for you in the beginning and then decides they can't do it because he felt I wasn't pulling my weight I guess by not doing the housework. The funniest thing is,for what he has to give me weekly he could have hired a full time maid He is such an idiot...I am trying to figure out why I stayed so long and wasted so many good years that I would love to have back. But that doesnt get me anywhere so now I am looking to the future. He was having trouble with his knees,and I told him between the smoking,drinking and the way he has mistreated his body,it won't be long until he will be just like me or worse,and who is he going to have then? I told him if there was such a thing as divine justice he was soon to get a great big payback! I just don't understand and I am wondering if anybody out there gets this kind of behavior or if any of you are going through this with your spouse or s/o?Thanks for letting me vent. Like I said,the old spunky me is back, and I am back to my usual smart ass self and not crying my eyes out anymore.I love my little apartment,and I am probably more comfortable here than anywhere I have ever lived with him. I was always trying to measure up to his standards for some stupid reason and now I can just be me,and that's enough. I am in a good place now,and I figure it's just going to get better. Sherry |
