Fibromyalgia Support Group

I just got back from my Dr. today and found out that the course of treatment I had been intersted in wasnt a safe option so I was stressed and upset. Combind that with heavey rain getting up early and lots of errands and I felt like hell ! After a long nap I called my mother because I was suddenly having yellow glints of light in my vision that didnt go away when I blinked or moved. Then they stopped after ten seconds. They only occured in my left eye and after it was over my left side was bothering me. Has anyone else had this happen ?? I was worried and she is a nurse so I called her for support and comfort. While I was pouring my heart out too her she kept intruppting me to talk to her husband about a tv stand she was trying to buy and kept interjecting with how shes shopping online. Shes saying this knowing adam and Is sofa is held up by a brick right now and it kills me to sit on it. And we are really struggling finacially. Not to mention that she dosnt work and always says she will come help me with house work then never dose because something else comes up like a concert for example! Every day when she talks to me she intrupts our conversation like 5 times to answer other calls no matter how important what I need her for is. When I told her Id let her go she got mad and asked why. I broke down and cried and said I didnt feel like she was there for me truly when she was intruppting and shopping on line! She then tears into me about how bad her day has been. Am I selfish and wrong for having wanted her to focus on the conversation and comfort me ?? After all I left my home for a month to go to mayo clinic and take care of her dispite being ill myself. And have gone to EVERY doctors appointment she was worried for but she has yet to show to one of mine. ( even when I dont have a ride because I cant drive)

SORRY Im so whiney I just really needed to vent because Im hurt right now

Akbaby,

No, I can't say I have ever had that happen. Has it gone completely away now? If it continues I would def go have it checked out. It could be something that needs some medical attention. Let me know.

Again, NO. You are not being out of line. I hate it when I am talking to someone and they keep talking to someone else. You are important, and should not be shrugged off for online shopping or anything else. Does your mother live near you? I would suggest if she does that you get together with her sometime when she is alone, and there are no distractions. Tell her how you feel, and maybe she will understand that you need her, not that you are just calling to complain. There is a difference. If she's not close, you may have to do it by phone, but let her know that when she has some uninteruppted time, that you would like to talk to her 1on1. I'm sorry you were treated that way, I hope it helps some to know that you are important to us, and are loved. I know it's not the same, but we will do all we can. HUGS

Akbaby, no, you are not wrong to expect full attention when you are talking. I could have written this post. I am so very sorry that this happened and that you are having such a bad day. I teach my girls that it is so much easier to love strangers than family(when we were talking about my parents/their grandparents who don't care about them or me) because we have expectations of family, like being there, and we don't for strangers.

I know about broken promises, parents that don't care and parents that put one child and one set of grandchildren above others. It is very painful and you have every right to complain. And, your mom, who is a nurse, should know how her selfishness would contribute to your emotional upset and pain.

Please feel free to vent all you want. We care.

Post edited by: Kvasconez, at: 08/30/2011 09:41 PM

mar, my sister is also a nurse and she assured me it was a badly pinched nerve. which makes sense because I have yet to go to the chiro this month lol. She lives in the same town but like I said I cant drive and she never comes here like she says and if I ask her to come get me Ill get blown off. She really isnt worth the time but we just got a functional relationship about a year ago ( hmm right around when my fibro started how ironic)

Kvas thank you for the support and reassurance. Im glad in one way Im not alone on this but DEEPLY saddened that you know and experince the same family pain that I do . What I always tell myself is that this helps open my eyes to make sure I love everyone as much as I can because I dont know who really needs it . Also it reminds me to let myself be loved by others because some times people without the titles " mom" or "dad" are more a parent and influence then they ever were.

Hugs to you both and thank you for helping me through this if you ever need to talk please PM me

you aren't wrong at all to want her attention! last weekend i called my mom crying looking for support. it had been a long weekend that had just culminated in me taking my oldest to the hospital because he was sooo sick. i was so worn down and stressed i had been having heart palpitations all night and that doesn't happen unless i have pushed WAY too far. she kept interrupting me to tell my brother how to do the laundry. i was SOOO mad! i know how it feels to just need someone so bad and have them only give you half of their attention. feel free to vent cuz everyone needs to sometimes.

Nem, it sounds like youve had an awful time and I hope that both you and your son are doing better now . How about this everyone on this thread will now cyber adopt each other to act as the support system and tell us what needs said at the times our parents spouses or friends dont! And the first think Im going to say to you Is REST and take care of yourself. Hugs and I hope you and your son are back on your feet soon

I like that! Cyber adoption is cool!

Post edited by: Kvasconez, at: 08/30/2011 09:39 PM

i hope you are feeling better...

you arent wrong to want her attention, i know i try and vent to my mom sometimes and she does the samething so i totaly understand where youy are coming from. if you ever need to vent message me i will listen

Thanks race the same goes for you ! As well as everyone else here. Im doing ok today . Im going in for a detox foot bath and cold laser treatment at the chiroprator that my sister in law recomened. I hope it helps me Ill let yall know

wouldn't it be lovely if we could have real life statuses? like great big buttons that people see as soon as they look at us. they could say things like "PAY ATTENTION TO ME D*****!" or "IT'S A ROUGH DAY. COMFORT ME!" glad you're doing ok today ak