Fibromyalgia Support Group

Just a Question to all my fellow fibro sufferers. Are there things that make your flares worse or harder to deal with? I am finding that with each flare I have that I get very overwhelmed very easily. Lots of clutter, loud noises, strong smells, my two childrens endless talking...lol but seriously if I am in a flare it seem to become a cycle. The more chaos there is around me the more trouble I have coping with the flare. If I can step away from everything to a quite place for a little while I feel better. If it was just easier to step out on the world for 15 minutes, but where I work there is always chaos, I work for a lady who should be featured on the show horders. and days like today when the flare is to the point where I am about to fall over dealing with this mess is..... well exhausting.

ok I am done with my rambling for now. Now for a laugh.

I did this today!

You know your fibro flare is bad when you call up a fibro friend and ask for a lighthouse to guide you out of the fog that has rolled in to your brain.

love you guys!

Jalyn your so funny! The biggest factor STRESS! you can get a flare out of the blue and don't know what hit you but getting stressed out really can bring it on, chaos definitely.

keep the jokes coming I love it!

I also find that when you are in a flare, sitting and typing makes it worse for me.. Leaning forward strains my lower back and when I am flaring, that means I cannot walk for a couple of days.

Great that you can laugh and make jokes through this! Best of luck! Kim

Stress plays a big role in our flares. No matter how much stress we try to avoid it will always be there. I find that soaking in a warm tub with candles lit eases a little bit of the everyday stresses that we have. And you feel so much better afterwards, just don't get a chill it will not help, just make it worse.

hope this helps you. Hope you feel better soon. Hang in there. God Bless You. shortstuff

Loved the lighthouse joke! Too true!

cold damp weather, stress, telephone calls, unless its my best friend, she always makes me laugh even when she hurts more than me, I have a phobia about the telephone....totally irrational, shrug here,

not enough fluids during the day....too much drama, not enough sleep, not taking a hot bath before bed.........and the beat goes on.....

There are so many things,

But We are FIBROWARRIORS we will prevail~~~

hugs, Natty

actually the gif I just posted, never used it before dont think i will again, it looks like a tummy with acid reflux.....

Hmmmmm

Post edited by: Natalia5150, at: 03/18/2011 04:36 AM

Changes in altitude when I travel trigger my migraines, changes in barometric pressure, not enough rest, highly stressful events (but I also find that my ability to tolerate any stress is reduced, so fairly mild events are highly stressful), and the worst are flares brought on by constant--and unnecessary--worrying about future social occasions: will I be too tired, will I want to sleep at seven p.m., will it be torture trying to remain awake and sociable? What happens is, of course, these become self-fulfilling prophecies. It's the pits.

Stress, hormonal changes, changes in weather.... yes, in a flare, I too agree that I become ultra sensitive to everything - noises, lights, smells..... I Hate clutter.

I love to be alone in a flare, although my "old me" was very socialable". I try to keep everything simple and avoid drama at all costs. I have had to spring clean some toxic people out of my life thanks to fibro. That actually made me hurt worse. No need for that...

my are the weather, cold, damp (feel like I am 90), I used to be able to multi task, I mean at one time I ran a business (stress), my house had to always be immaculate (not now), you name it I could do it, full speed ahead, but during this time, I was dealing with so much stress, my husband diagnosed with cancer in 05, took care of him 24 hrs. a day for 2 long years, he died 12-28-07 at home, I had my hands full with my son, (my only child who was a full blown addict), and my husband owned his own business, the secretary who was running my husbands business (we knew her and her family for 21 years, she was like family) had been stealing money from 07 up until I had to sell (forced to sell) in Sept 09. During 07 and 09 she managed to steal abt 700,000, no longer able to pay my house mtg, bills, she stole everything from my life..in the process of foreclosure on my home, my life was turned upside down, after closing the business, I did some investigating, rummaged thru all the boxes of paperwork, statements, cancelled checks, from the business, these were things I had to hold on to for 5 years, and the deeper I dug, the more I found, I took what I found to my lawyers, he said u have a huge case here, if we can prove she stole up to 75,000, we will turn it over to the prosecutor, my lawyer said, "I can do this for you, but Randy I don't want to charge you anymore money than I have too, do you think you can do this? By now, I was a crazed woman, and for 3 months, non-stop, from Oct to Dec. 08, I worked my butt off, it became an obsession, morning, noon, and night I worked, and just in those 3 months...I found close to 100,000 that she had stole, now it is in the hands of 2 detectives, Ocean County Prosecutor...final figure over $700,000 she stole, she was arrested in August 2010, and they questioned her abt 4 hours, on tape recorder, they asked her, Did you have an affair with Paul? (deceased husband), she panicked, screaming to turn off recorders, they of course told her we can't do that, but long story short...yes, she admitted to long time affair, so it seems that whatever she wanted, money wise, or anything else, my husband took care of her, now just waiting for arraignment, she could do up to 7 years in prison...OMG I am sorry for ranting on and on...but 4 some reason I feel better! I forgot the best part, she will have to pay restitution, and pay back the IRS forever..my son is in jail...full blown heroin addict, stole 20,000 from me last summer, broke into my house, and then broke into safe, and took all the money I had to my name, was going to use that to get caught up on my mtg, but he has hurt so many others, by stealing, that now he will be doing 4-5 years...amazing all thru this ordeal I never got sick, now fast forward, I have become so sick, pain I can't even describe, lost over 60 pounds, my faith got me where I am today, out of NJ, I did sell my home, but it cost 19,000 to unload it, so at the end, I made nothing on my home, that's ok though, I moved to PA in December 2010 with my fiance, and life has been better, also in the process, I lost my health insurance, because she was stealing so much, could not afford to pay my health insurance anymore...I believe all this has made me a much stronger woman, but now a sick woman, with means to see a doctor, but as soon as we get married, I will have coverage, and hopefully will find a good doctor, WHICH I KNOW I NEED DESPERATELY! This is the first time in a very long time, I let this all go, I mean talk abt it...Again I am sorry for rambling on, but it feels so good..Thanks I needed that!!

fibromite, I know what you mean about toxic people. I have never been much of a social person, very big into family, but not social stuff. I had a select group of friend that I have had most my life and in the past week I have broke ties with two of them. It hurt me so much to do it, but it had to be done. One friend has been my friend for 23 years, I hadn't seen her in years but we always talk and e-mail each other, so me and the family decided to go visit her for the weekend. Six weeks of planning the trip, 4 1/2 hours in the car after working a 40 hour work week and we take her and her kids to breakfast ($75), we go down to the riverwalk (SAn Antonio, TX) and 1 hour later she walks off and I get a call 30 min later saying she decided to go home and see her boyfriend. I knew then I was the one holding the friendship together and it was a waste of my very little to spare energy. The other friend had been a friend for almost 11 years and a business partner for 2 years. Her brother (who lives with her) worked with my husband. This week her brother decided he didn't like his job and quit. And in leaving he made some false claims against my husband to justify him leaving his job. My "friend" and business partner then took all the claims he had made to her and told everyone she knew and then called and filed a complaint to the owner of the company. Saying my husband (who is the GM of the store) was doing illegal dealings and stealing money from the shop. Then she calls my Mother (who is the thrid partner in my business) and comes up with some sob story how I was using her brother quiting to put a wedge in the company. All this happened before I knew what was going on. It was like being thrown under a train. Lucky for us my husband and the owner are close enough that the owner didn't believe anything, my Mom and I had to talk alot of things out because she never wants to believe a friend would betray her or me. So we made the decision to remove her from the company and cut all ties. We were lucky that I am the financial backer of the company and could let her go, now we just have to replace her. You can't be a Full service Wedding and event company with out a caterer.

Ok this has turned into a major vent SO SORRY. I didn't plan to do that. But I feel better I have been holding that in all week.