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I was told today that my oldest missed 3 drug tests in a row. Now he gets home from his rehab group and informs me the test he took today will be positive. That's the second one- and he's only taken 2 tests since he's been out of jail. He's going to end up back in jail most likely. This is a huge violation of his probation and the judge wasn't happy with him. This stress with him almost killed me this summer.

I'm already in so much pain I can hardly move and instead of a day off tomorrow, I have to take Rhiana to the dr. and go grocery shopping. Honey and I had a fight- he told me all I do is complain. Just a few months ago, he told me to tell him when I hurt, tell him what was going on, and now it's constant complaining. I was up half the night with a puking puppy, outside in the freezing 50 mph wind. I feel like crap with allergies, fibro and now the stress with Adam which just makes muscles tighten and things hurt. Honey apologized and said he realized it sounded like the one person I need to talk to doesn't want to hear it. He said he felt bad about what he said, but he still said it ya know?

Geez...I hate to feel like this. I hate to be in so much pain. I hate to feel like a whiny complainer. And what really sucks is that I know I should go to bed, but I'm manic, so my body is exhausted, but my mind is racing.

Hugs {{{{Cornbread}}}}

Wow, I'm sorry to hear you have so much stress going on in your life right now. That for sure doesn't help when you have FMS!! I hope things turn around for you real soon...

I'm sorry, too, that your hubby snapped the way he did. I suppose on thing to consider is that he, too, is going through stresses in the family, and also with your FMS, and perhaps you caught him on a bad day where it was just all too much for him to respond positively. Not that it makes it hurt any less, especially when you're hurting physically so much and need support. You don't need hurt feelings on top of it, huh.

The apology is a good thing though. So many hubbies cannot bring themselves to do that, and it sounds like your hubby does want to support you.

And for goodness sake, stay out of the cold! *BRR* I don't know about you, but that sends me into a horrendous flare... if the puppy gets sicks again, put some paper down on the kitchen floor & deal with it there... inside where you're warmer, LOL

I do hope things get better for you soon... *soft* fibro (((HUGS)))

{{{{Cornbread}}}}

So sorry to hear about your stress, but I am glad your hubby apologized. I hope tomorrow is a better day.

Hugs Cornbread. I wish I was there to help you out. Stress is not what you need right now.

Hang in there gal, things will straighten themselves out.

We talked more. He said he's tired of taking care of people. He is an HME tech, so he's always taking care of people in their homes, setting up oxygen and hospital beds and stuff. He said he doesn't have it in him to come home to me having a bad fibro day. I feel like a burden. And my days haven't been as bad as they have in the past. Today was bad, but I've been extremely independent lately, despite my pain. I've been doing everything I can to not be a burden and still keep my sanity and I'm still a burden.

This all started because he went to the store for something for supper. I even told him I'd cook, but he got mad that I wouldn't tell him what to get. I honestly didn't care that much, but then he said shrimp linguine, which sounded like crap. When I said no, he lit into me about complaining all the time. He's normally not like this at all- usually he's really empathetic. Tonight though he just let me have it. I just feel like dirt right now. Lower than a snake's belly at the bottom of a ditch. Someone call the waaambulance!!!

Oh, Sweetie, if I lived near you I'd come over and give you a huge but gentle hug! This is the same fighting that my hubby and i have been having. Except he has either been apologizing but nothing changes or tries to just act like nothing happened.

I think the men in our lives just get to a breaking point every now and then. They think they have to be the strong ones, especially since we in a way might seem to physically weak in their eyes and in need of protection. But they can't handle that they can't fix it. It was good that he opened up. Hopefully this will all just blow over.

I'm so sorry about all the other stuff you are tackling right now. You know if I could I'd take some of it away from you so you could have a break. Good luck with everything, and I'm here for you if you need me. Try to get some rest tonight.

Thanks honey. Check your email.

hey cornbread, sounds like you and i have alot in common. i have a nephew(whom i helped raise) spend 45 mos. in prison for running from cops, because he had no driver's license. he got out in july 07. this year started drinking. well tried to talk to him, but he kept saying had it under control. aug 10th he was in almost fatal crash. other boy in w/him both were life flighted to atlanta. multi broken bones, lacerated liver and kidney, other guy still cannot walk, and may never. david said he let other boy drive because he wasn't drinking as bad, but since both were throw out of truck, and truck belonged to david, police have arrested him for felony vehicular bodyily harm.he is still on parole. to top things off 2 nights ago, my 27 year old daughter swallow ed a bottle of pills. she lives w/ me and came and told me afterwards. had to call 911. now they have involuntarily commited her for at least three days. who has to take care of her 3 yr, 2 yr, and 10 month old daughters? me and i work two jobs trying to support her and the girls while sarah is back in school. i'm also bp and in manic right now, can't sleep, don't want to eat, and fibro pain is off my charts. cold is also beginning to take a toll as well. God Bless you.

Cornbread- I just wanted to let you know Im also praying for you. I hope you can rest a little today and take 5 minutes for yourself. Take care.

Wendy