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Welcome! The way I see it is the choice is really his whether he wants to stay or leave, and it sounds like he's made it. I think that you making him fight to stay isn't you trying to protect him. I think if you look deep down it could be you, trying to protect yourself from possibly getting hurt. Could there be something inside that's afraid if you agree to commit that you will be hurt somewhere down the road? I only say this because I speak from experience. My husband was hurt terribly in a past relationship. We were together for five years before we got married and there were days early in the relationship when both of us wondered if it would even happen. But I knew from how close we had gotten and how much we loved each other that it was not a relationship to give up on. We are now married for over a year and have a beautiful baby girl. If you are that sure of your love (which you should embrace and celebrate...just because we are sick does not mean we should be cursed to a life of lonliness or without love!), then maybe searching deeper into your worries might help. Some people go to marriage counseling before they are even married. Maybe that would work for the two of you. It would help you each communicate your fears and frustrations and further prove to each other whether or not you should move on to marriage. I hope this helps. I might be off base, but sometimes just hearing a different perspective helps you see things in a different light and learn something you either didn't know was there or didn't want to realize was there. I wish you lots and lots of luck. He sounds like a great guy who just wants to shower you with love!  |
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