Fibromyalgia Support Group

Someone put within there post about people with fibro being overweight in general because of their inability to exercise. I never thought of it that way, I just thought I was lazy and didn't have enough willpower to workout or even walk.

But truth be told, even walking hurts. My husband gets on me about this because he and now a stupid, know it all doctor (gee, another one) said in front of my husband that exercise was the most important thing in keeping fibro symptoms at bay.

Again, but I can't even walk more than a few hundred feet 1/2 the time. I have handicapped plates because of it. How am I expecting myself to exercise and lose weight. When I try, I hurt myself badly.

I could use some input in this area because I beat myself up all the time because I'm about 20 lbs overweight, just enough to feel bad about myself and for it to be noticeable. I used to be skinny as a rail before I got sick.

My husband said to me the other day "Oh, don't worry honey. If you're still tired and hurting stay in bed." Then when I got up he said "It's a wonder you don't have bed sores." MEAN!!!

Please someone let me know what they think about this.

Thanks,

Wolfpack

Hi wolfpack I to am over weight,I also said in my post that fibro people have trouble doing the sort of exercise required to really help you lose the weight.Not to say that we shouldn't exercise at all as the Drs. are right it does seem to help with the stiffness and also helps to keep the muscles from wasteing.I have found water exercise the best as it is gentle on your feet and we are weightless in the water so you tend to get more benifit out of it.Wlaking is good but not power walking,a Dr. I used to go to said start with 5 minutes the first day and then add 1 minute each day until you are walking with ease or to where you still feel comfortable and not tired out.It does work but you have to do it everyday,I know this is proberbly not much help but it's all I have to offer you and what works for one dosn't always work for someone else.We all know carrying around extra weight is bad for you ,heart,lungs,joints everything gets stressed but some of thease Drs. could be a little more encouraging instead of yapping on about how you have to lose the weight or it will become an issue,it already is.As for loved ones sometimes they are very cruel I would love nothing better than to fit into a size 12 but I don't so a bit of support and encouragement wouldn't go astray.

Sorry for raveing on.

malaluka

Wolfpack,

I too am overweight, before this flare started I weighed about 130, now I am 200 pounds, I was also in the Army before this flare started so I had a pretty decent body..which I no longer have. My husband is constantly on me about losing weight and getting back there because he said I was sexier then. (OUCH that hurts)

I wish I had some words to offer you, but I don't. I call myself fluffy instead of fat..it makes it seem less harsh! LOL

I have to work out and keep moving because of my spondylitis if I don't my joints can freeze up. I all really have a fusion in my back. Trust me its hard to get moving. My muscles are always hurting and working out is the last thing I want to do.

Swimming is great, I love it, I'm a water bug you can't keep out of the pool. Plus, there is no tention on the joints.

Sometimes family can be alittle cruel. I'm sorry your hubby said that to you. My family has a weight thing. So i'm always worrying about my weight. My dad jogs almost 6 miles every other day. He has this thing about staying in shape. He gets on me somtimes, I now how you feel.

Not for nothin' I don't think being 20lbs overweight is a bad thing. Noone is the perfect weight. Unless your a supermodel and starving yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself. I would try swimming you just might find some relief.

I'm 70 pounds over weight now. When I got married I was scary thin. Hubby is heavy but not obese, so he would rather see me with a little weight on.He says when I get too this I look sick.

Now the doctor is a different story, she would like me to lose weight but also told it would be almost impossible. When I do walk I walk slow, I don't power walk at all. I have also started using walking sticks. They give you a better workout and also keep me from me falling.

I'm sorry your husband said that, you are right it was mean. I'm afraid I would have blown my stack.

One time my doctor said something about being out of shape, I used a phrase my friend had said..."I'm not out of shape, I'm round and round IS A SHAPE" Shut her up for a few minutes

I too am overweight. The picture you see is of me in 2004 before all this stuff started to show it's ugly face. Since that picture, I have gained over 100 lbs because of the medicine I take for my Diabetes. Each Dr visit I express my concerns about the weight gain and the Dr just tells me that it's an unfortunate side effect and gives me a diet to follow. Walking is for the birds with me and I love to walk so it bothers me that I can't do it anymore. I make it out to the mail box OK but on the way back I'm hurting so bad. It's only 90 feet out to the mail box. If I walk too far on a good day, my feet swell up. I've been looking for a DVD or a VHS tape for exercising for seniors. There's one I saw that are gentle exercises and the people are sitting in chairs while doing them.

I have one of the Mutt and Jeff marriages. I'm short and round and my husband is tall and skinny as a rail. He doesn't mind cause he knows that it's the medicine that is doing this too me and he works with people who's wives and relatives have also gained this much weight because of the Diabetes medicines.

People can be cruel when they don't know the facts about you. Those people who make fun of others are ignorant people and I choose to stay away from them. Your hubby will one day understand what you are going thru. It took awhile but mine finally did.

Jan

I to am overweight. I have been trying to lose weight and I have not had any luck with it. I've changed my eating habits but that hasn't worked. Just last month I was diagnosed with fibro after about a year of testing to rule everything else out. The Dr. tells me to exercise it helps but I hurt to bad to exercise and the days I don't hurt so bad I'm so tired I can barely move. So I would love to know how I can lose weight when exercise is not in the cards for me. Oh by the way I am about 120 lbs overweight.

Get a hug from me. I am very hurt that there is not anything that helps. Fibromyalgia is a curse, I am miserable for 20 years but the last 6 are gone with many tears....yes I am overweight but in vain I tried to loose weight. I am sure that if I was able to loose weight I would feel much better. Fibro is some thing that is very bad, but we must try to help ourselves buy other things such-as: good untisipetions, doctors advises, loosing weight, keep busy even if it is some times impossible. I am watching lot of comedy, I pray a lot, I talk to feel better,I pray for people with same problem, I share a lot with others,I suggest you to laugh a lot. try any way. I am knitting a lot items that I do not even need.

I have also put on weight. This year I deceided to start walking and give weight watchers a try. Believe it or not the walking really did help the aches and pains. And I am now down 17 pounds. The best part of the weight watchers is I can eat anything I want as long as I count the points.

I am about 60 lbs overweight for my frame. I cannot walk that far, and other exercises make me feel worse. Some days I DO push myself to go outside and weed my flower garden and attend to the flowers, which takes me about an hour or so, it is excruciating but I make myself do it because I know I should move more. Sometimes I feel better after having sweat a little bit. But sometimes I wake up next day 10x worse. I walk my dogs once a day. And play around with my grandson. Other than that, no exercising. I wish I could do aerobics or dancing exercise. But I get tired after about 5 minutes.