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tsage
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I have absolutely no desire for sex. I still love my husband and still find him attractive. Is this fibro or the meds? If you have this problem, and especially if you found a solution, please let me know. The guilt over this is consumes me.tsage May God heal your body and soul. May your pain cease, May your strength increase, May your fears be released, May blessings, love, and joy surround you. www.fmaware.org |
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fibroforever
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My husband and I have been married for over 20 years. Now that I'm thinking about it... close to 25!  I love him bunches! I have no desire for sex either. I don't think it's my meds, but not sure. I know that part of it is pain. Then, I'm sure that fatigue and major depression play a big role too. Thankfully, he's very understanding. And honestly, he's tired a lot (works "way" too hard) and has no desire either. We do a lot of hugging and snuggling. That seems to pacify the both of us. "When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in the first place." ~Unknown |
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faieriemama
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I am so relieved to see that I am not the only one. My dh and I have been together for 28 years . I have almost no interest in sex either, I think that some of it is due to the meds,some to fatigue and some to the pain of course. We try to play around the pain and go slow cuz of the fatigue. Fortunately he is also my knight in rusty armor, and one of my favorite people. May the sun bring you new energies by day,
May the moon softly restore you by night ,
May the rain wash away any worries you may have,
And the breeze blow new strength into your being,
And then,all the days of your life,
May you walk gently through the world,and know it’s beauty and yours.
A Native American Blessing
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AutumnSunset
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Unfortunately, I have to agree with all of you. I have no interest in sex either. I think most of mine is pain and fatigue right now. I don't think I'm on any meds at the moment that cause this problem. We have been married for 32 years, and know each other really well. My husband is very understanding, but still struggles with my "lack of interest" at times. I sometimes catch him watching me to determine if I'm hurting very badly. He hesitates to ask me about a "date" because he doesn't want to pressure me. I had a hysterectemy in my early 30's and have been on hormones until last year. I didn't have much interest in sex when I was on them, but when I came off them, I REALLY had problems.  My doctor told me that coming off the hormones can cause problems in some people. He recommended that I try a natural hormone. I've tried 2 different natural hormones, but one called "Sentia" worked the best. After a week or so, I could tell a difference. My desire went from practically none to an interest every 3 weeks or so. To us who have this problem - that's a BIG improvement! (I haven't been taking it for a while because it is expensive. I switched to a cheaper type natural hormones that seemed to work fairly well at the time, but doesn't appear to be helping at all now.) Hope to hear some more ideas. Gentle Hugs, Carla  I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much. ~Mother Teresa |
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Jill1021
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Your not the only one, I have no desire for sex either, and I like you feel very guilty that I am not having sex with my husband, I worry so much that he is going to go find it where he can because I am not being with him, worry causes more pain! He says he is ok with it as long as he gets it once a month, this month I feel I owe him double due to the fact that his birthday is later this month..lol! I am just glad he understands and still loves me in spite of all of this and sticks by my side, and loves me even though I have packed on about 50 pounds! (love the fibro meds) I think that he is the worlds greatest most understanding man! I love him to pieces for being so understanding and not pestering me for sex every time i turn around. But yeah your not alone..Sorry for the rambling mess!  |
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mcbeth
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Count me in with the rest of you ladies. I had a hysterectomy when I was 41 and put on hormones. My interest diminished, but now it is totally gone. Honestly I don't think I could stay awake. Sometimes I am so tired that I am asleep before I turn the light out on the night stand. Hubby is pretty understanding, but I sure don't say anything when he falls asleep in the recliner at 7:00!! Post edited by: mcbeth, at: 07/03/2008 21:25 *♥´¨) ¸.•♥ ´¸.•*♥´¨ ♥•*¨) (¸.•´ ; (¸ ;.♥•Mary Beth♥ Fibromyalgia is not an invisible diease, I'm right here!  |
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BLB
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Yep..me too...I don't have the desire or dive to do anything at all...I would rather go to sleep...but I think with the decrease in my meds and the hormones I am taking it may come back...I am hoping...I feel so sorry for my hubby..even though he is older than I and he doesn't have the drive either but he does have the disire....who knows what will happen..
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tsage
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Thank you all for your feedback. I might give natural hormones a try and see how it goes. My husband doesn't pressure me at all...In fact, he NEVER asks! I think he's afraid of hurting me. Just one more lovely symptom and/or side effect to add to the list! tsage May God heal your body and soul. May your pain cease, May your strength increase, May your fears be released, May blessings, love, and joy surround you. www.fmaware.org |
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nhlflagg
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I can join that group, I have no desire. What makes it worse is I remarried 5 years ago. I feel so guilty, I know he has desire. It can't the meds with me because I just started the med on Mon. I wish there was help but I am so tired and hurt so bad..... |
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tdecker68
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I have absolutely no sex drive either...I have been remarried since February 2007. I feel the same as most of you. I feel so horribly guilty I want to cry. My husband does get upset about it... I try to explain but I don't think he listens.. Since I have just been diagnosed recently with fibro I wasn't sure what the heck was wrong with me. Before all this started happening I had no problems at all. I was the aggressor. I was thinking it was all in my head..... |
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