To find yourself, you must first love yourself for who you are just as you love others around you for who they are. It took me years to figure that out. My father told me don't hate yourself because you tried and failed, love yourself because you had the courage to try and may have made a difference in someone else's life without even knowing it. I sponsored a Navajo child thru school and am still in contact with him even now that he is in college. His mother used to tell him: "you have to lift your head and push forward everyday, no matter how dark life is because time doesn't stop."

Please don't take offense with my thoughts as they are thoughts of just one person and not ment to hurt anyone's feelings.

Jan

May your troubles be less, Your blessings be more. And nothing but happiness come through your door!

No offense taken at all!!! I actually thought what beautiful words.... Thank you so much for saying that, you are absolutely right!

I am a person that is looking forward to the future, expecting good to come at any moment, and hoping that it does.

I love rainstorms..the smell, the feel, the refreshment it brings.

I love sitting around a campfire until late at night having fun and meaningful conversation with those that share the fire.

I enjoy the cool summer nights on my porch, sitting with my thoughts and fireflies.

I love the fall. Only God could make something look so beautiful when it's dying.

I prefer to shirk my snow shoveling duties for laying in the snow.

If it's snowing, i'm drinking hot cocoa.

I roast my marshmallows until they are black.

I envision myself one day riding a horse and being that strong and carefree.

I help others when i see they are struggling.

I never try to make anyone feel unwanted, and will converse with them so they don't feel lonely.

I love chocolate.

I want to one day love somebody with my whole heart and my whole mind, and be returned the favor.

I want to share my life with that one man who makes it all seem better even if its not..and watch myself grow with his child.

I want to one day look in the mirror and smile.

Music, it's my life. A good song can turn things around, and if you are sad, it can also commiserate right along with you.

I have found out that when you change yourself to try and fit with someone, you are left unhappy. So, I am trying to accept myself, and act myself at all times. I hope that finds me true people that will care for me through all times.

When i'm troubled or upset, i tend to snap at people, so i'm working on that.

I have come to realize that it doesn't matter how many clothes you buy, how you do your makeup, or what new exercise you do, if you are not content with who you are, these things wont make you feel any prettier or better about yourself.. Sure, for awhile you'll feel like you've achieved some sort of accomplishment, but when you go to bed at night and all of your makeup is off, and you are not wearing your new clothes, and the pain in your legs in severe from that new workout, you'll be cranky and downright frustrated that those things didnt change you into who you wanted to be.

And, also, i apparently am a typing blabbermouth that got into the "zone" haha.

Be good, smile alot, laugh alot, love alot. Remember: Never be ashamed to laugh at yourself.

Jan

May your troubles be less, Your blessings be more. And nothing but happiness come through your door!

I sat in my chair, took a deep breath and wondered if that was the way I may have felt when I was 19.

Your thoughts were fresh and beautiful.

Thanks for the post.

Sandi

Sandy have you given any thoughts to writing for nurses? They can use all the support they can get and perhaps some stories you experienced can give them some encouragement. Just a thought.

I appreciate all the replies...

My definition of self. I don't know who I am. I know who I am becoming and who I want to be. I have never felt good enough or worthy enough or pretty or smart enough.

I am almost fourty and just now realizing there must be something in me that is pretty nice because the people in my life keep telling me so.

I am amazed at what I can do, I am really doing well in school. I am finding that I really like to be productive and see a job well done. I am good at solving problems. I am not good at emergencies. I have too much self doubt.

I have learned I like to be independent and in control...

I have not defined myself well.

Maybe I am still growing up. YAY that means I am not old yet. *right?? Just nod.