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dciree Posts: 232
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"sex and fibromyalgia". (don't buy that book, it talks about all the stuff you know about sex + two paragraphs about fibro), it says "no matter how in pain you are, you should have sex cause you never know, it will release endorphins which would make you feel happy you had had sex" omg. i think this person doesn't get it at all. what if you are too in pain to even be touched. sometimes when my bf wants to touch my private parts and i am in pain it feels like that. do you ever feel like that? what do you do? *vent part* it makes me angry to read statements like that. MAKES ME SO MAD! i feel like if she doesn't have fibro, then boy she does not realize how bad fibro can get. if she does have fibro, i fee like she hasn't *earned* the right to write a book about it if she didn't at least experienced moderate to severe fibro. that gives me another thought, i wish fibro books came in levels. like children's book came in levels (level 1, 2 , 3 etc) so we can pick a level to read based on how severe one's fibro is |
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AJ1971 Posts: 1016
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Maybe it's bc i'm male but I do it even if it hurts or the consequences later and trust me it hurts sometimes ok I will probably leave the rest alone. However I agree if she does not have fibro what rite does she have. Psalm 91
My Refuge and My Fortress
91:1 He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High
will abide in the shadow of the Almighty.
2 I will say to the Lord, “My refuge and my fortress,
my God, in whom I trust.”
3 For he will deliver you from the snare of the fowler
and from the deadly pestilence.
4 He will cover you with his pinions,
and under his wings you will find refuge;
his faithfulness is a shield and buckler.
5 You will not fear the terror of the night,
nor the arrow that flies by day,
6 nor the pestilence that stalks in darkness,
nor the destruction that wastes at noonday.
7 A thousand may fall at your side,
ten thousand at your right hand,
but it will not come near you.
8 You will only look with your eyes
and see the recompense of the wicked.
9 Because you have made the Lord your dwelling place—
the Most High, who is my refuge—
10 no evil shall be allowed to befall you,
no plague come near your tent.
11 For he will command his angels concerning you
to guard you in all your ways.
12 On their hands they will bear you up,
lest you strike your foot against a stone.
13 You will tread on the lion and the adder;
the young lion and the serpent you will trample underfoot.
14 “Because he holds fast to me in love, I will deliver him;
I will protect him, because he knows my name.
15 When he calls to me, I will answer him;
I will be with him in trouble;
I will rescue him and honor him.
With long lifrwill I satisfy him, and show him my salvation.
~Jesus is Lord~
I'M NOT A DOCTOR SO ANYTHING I SAY IS MY OPINION ALWAYS CONSULT A DOCTOR :) |
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JoSh11 Posts: 1233
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When I am in too much pain to be touched, i just say so, & my wonderfully supportive husband understands. But the doc who wrote the book is correct: sexual activity, especially sexual climax, is known to release endorphins. These are the best pain killers ever. Your own body makes them, & you may find yourself pain free for many hours. They are the same things responsible for the "runners high". But, since our ability to exercise is too limited to allow us to reach the point where endorphins are released, sexual activity may be our only avenue. (Meditation might do it, too, but it takes decades to learn to meditate that successfully.) So, when you don't hurt too much, go hug your bf. ~EVERYTHING CAN BE TAKEN FROM YOU BUT ONE THING, THE LAST OF HUMAN FREEDOMS - TO CHOOSE ONE'S ATTITUDE IN ANY GIVEN SET OF CIRCUMSTANCES.
- Viktor Frankl, "Man's Search for Meaning"
[Please do not interpret anything I write as medical advice]
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MoiraWolf Posts: 3410
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While I understand about endorphins and agree that they're the greatest pain killer around... I also have to agree with how the heck you going to get "there" when it hurts to even think about sex? The last time we even tried to have sex, I hurt so much we gave up and that was over 6 months ago. And it's hard to get in the mood for sex, when you feel so decidedly unsexy. You dress in pajamas and sleep pants most of the time because clothing hurts, you take a shower only when you must because water hurts, or it hurts to raise your arms up to wash your hair. Forget shaving your legs! (I'm not quite to the point of braiding the hair on my legs, but almost.) How is this supposed to make me feel sexy enough to want sex, or help me get in the mood so that *maybe* it won't be painful? I'd have to have a LOT of foreplay time to even "loosen up" enough for penetration, much less actually 'do the deed.' And forget most positions as my damned hip hurts so much from bursitis and joint degeneration disease that there's no way I could even open my legs enough. I have come to the conclusion that my days of great sex are gone and over with. I jsut don't see how, physically, it would be possible. I just hurt too much to be physically comfortable. And emotionally, well, a good snuggle is good enough. Endorphins? Like a lot of other stuff in my life, I'll just have to do without. But you're right, if the author doesn't appear to know what she's talking about, when she does mention Fibro, then she's got no right writing a book aimed at fibromites. I am not a medical doctor and any medical opinion I give is based on personal experience and/or research. It is not intended to suppliment or replace your doctor. Follow at your own risk.
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dciree Posts: 232
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Amen. Yes. How can i get to part where substaintial endophrine will be released part.. being that i can barely move? Post edited by: dciree, at: 07/03/2012 02:32 AM Post edited by: dciree, at: 07/03/2012 02:34 AM |
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