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Colleen16 Posts: 25
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just a quick update now that I am back online. I moved to a new town with my bf, and am getting settled in now  Have to get a new doctor though now Alot of work doing as little of it as possible lol. Colleen |
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mabri Posts: 4710
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Colleen, Glad to see you back. Hope you can find a new dr soon. I'm sure there is a lot of work to do, but don't forget to take care of yourself. Hope you enjoy your new home. It is always fun to decorate a new place and make it your own. Let us know how it is going when you get time. HUGS Please do not take anything I say as medical advice. I am not a doctor.
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MoiraWolf Posts: 3410
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It's kinda crazy, hubby and I bought a house in texas and lived in it for almost 5 years. Yet it never felt like "home." We've been in this apartment in the motel for almost 2 months, and it feels more "homey" than our house did. Go figure! Welcome back Colleen. Take care of yourself and don't do too much! I am not a medical doctor and any medical opinion I give is based on personal experience and/or research. It is not intended to suppliment or replace your doctor. Follow at your own risk.
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k357 Posts: 17
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My gf's adult kids expect her to run, run,run, it seems like they really don't think thier mom hurts as bad as she does, & anybody with half a brain can can see it in her eyes, & THAT P&%$#@S me off to no end. |
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MoiraWolf Posts: 3410
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Thank god YOU see it, and support her. There are endless posts on here about boyfriends, husbands, significant others, kids, family, friends, co-workers, etc, who don't "get it." Support her in learning to say no to them. Helping her learn to take care of herself first, you second, everyone else last. They are adults, she doesn't need to coddle them, and "run, run, run" everytime one of them yells JUMP! Give her (and them) copies of The Spoon Theory. When she's down and the kids want her to run do something, tell them "she's out of spoons today." and hang up. She don't need that crap and they need to learn to stand on their own two feet, instead of insisting on mom doing it for them. I am not a medical doctor and any medical opinion I give is based on personal experience and/or research. It is not intended to suppliment or replace your doctor. Follow at your own risk.
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Carbidopa/Levadopa 25/100mg
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Dx: Fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, obstructive sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome, degnerative joint disease, hypertension, diabetes type II, irritable bowel syndrome, plantar fasciitis, reactive airway disease, chronic allergies, hashimoto's disease, TMJ, morbid obesity, major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, seasonal affective disorder
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k357 Posts: 17
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The problem with D's kids are one lives at home with her BF & son & the other one (her son)is in & out like the wind, depending on his mood of the day, he doesn't care for me because I don't let him "bully" his mom & disrespect her, these kids have got to realize that it's not allways about them.  |
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MoiraWolf Posts: 3410
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I agree, see my above post. Do you live with her? If so, run interferance for her. Help with the housework and make damned sure the daughter and her boyfriend do too. Make a chore list and make sure the daughter and boyfriend are on it. If wayward son shows up, he's got chores to do too even if he's not on the list. He can take a turn loading or unloading the dishwasher, or vacuuming the floors or sweeping and mopping or doing a load of laundry. No one died and made him God to lord it all over the rest of you. He stays there, he helps like everyone else does. Depending on the age of the grandson, even he may be given a chore. When I had some friends staying with us, it was 5-year-old Diana's "job" to make sure lights were off if no one was in the room. So, if you forgot to turn off a light, realized it and went back to turn it off, she'd get MAD that she wasn't allowed to do her job. If I saw a light on, I'd just say loudly "Diana, time to do your job" and she'd come running to turn out the light (it was a stretch for her to reach the switch, so she really thought she was accomplishing something). You live in the house, you eat in the house, you make dirty clothes in the house, well guess what? You get to clean the house! Plus, you give respect to the elders in the house, whether that's her kids to her and you, or the little one to his parents and grandmother and you. I know this is probabliy harder done, than said. And if she's in the habit of doing everything for them, you may even have an uphill battle with her, despite her FM. Lots of people continue to try to push themselves into being who they were before FM hit. It doesn't work. You can only borrow spoons from the future for so long, then it bites you in the ass and you crash with a Flare that can last hours, days, weeks, or even years in some cases. She HAS to learn she has to take care of herself, and they HAVE to learn they need to stand on their own damned feet and quit expecting momma to do everything for them. Kids when they hit the late teens, want all the priviledges of being an adult, and none of the responsibility. I know, I did it, my daughter did it... it's part of them finding their own place in the world. But while it usually lasts until mid to late 20s... whatever age of these kids (and I'd guess late teens to very early 20s from your comments, tho I may be wrong), they need to grow up! *edit after some thought* I don't mean to sound harsh, but it just chaps my butt that kids do this to "normal" parents and really pisses me off when the parent/s in question have medical issues. It's a real hot-button issue with me. I'll climb off my soapbox now.  Post edited by: MoiraWolf, at: 07/05/2012 06:07 PM I am not a medical doctor and any medical opinion I give is based on personal experience and/or research. It is not intended to suppliment or replace your doctor. Follow at your own risk.
Gabapentin 600mg, tid
Tramadol 50mg, bid
Enalapril 10mg
Metoprolol ER 50mg
Citalopram 40mg
Levothyroid 125mcg
Cyclobenzaprine 10mg
Hydroxyzine 25mg
Carbidopa/Levadopa 25/100mg
Fish Oil Omega 3 - 1400mg
multi-vitamin pack
Vitamin C 500mg
Vitamin D3 50,000units, once a week
Dx: Fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, obstructive sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome, degnerative joint disease, hypertension, diabetes type II, irritable bowel syndrome, plantar fasciitis, reactive airway disease, chronic allergies, hashimoto's disease, TMJ, morbid obesity, major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, seasonal affective disorder
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k357 Posts: 17
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Yeah Moria, I live with my GF, & her daughter & her BF seem to be getting it. Her daughter actually cleaned the house today from end to end, & the BF actually mowed the lawn & took care of trash while I was at work. The grandson's only 2 so it's kind of hard for him. Her son on the other hand is still P.O.ed at me for when I jumped all over him for calling his mom a B****H when she asked him to empty the litterbox, he technically still lives here, but oly seems to come home when it suits his interests, like when he needs $$$. I can see that him & I are gonna have problems, but be that as it may, he WILL NOT disrespect his mom in my presence, & I think he learned that, if not he'll get more lessons in respect till he does. |
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MoiraWolf Posts: 3410
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Good! Find "The Spoon Theory" on here and print it out. Put it in the bathroom they use and take all other reading material out. They'll read it out of boredom and that may help them "get it" even more. Glad the daughter appears to be getting it and the boyfriend. A 2 year old... well, his chores should be just to keep his toys picked up at this point, that's hard enough for him to understand. (They're so cute at that age!) That son tho... well... He's definately old enough to know better and I'd drag him out into the yard, whop is butt and tell him he either learns respect or he can stay the hell out, and change the locks. But that's me. *evil grins* I am not a medical doctor and any medical opinion I give is based on personal experience and/or research. It is not intended to suppliment or replace your doctor. Follow at your own risk.
Gabapentin 600mg, tid
Tramadol 50mg, bid
Enalapril 10mg
Metoprolol ER 50mg
Citalopram 40mg
Levothyroid 125mcg
Cyclobenzaprine 10mg
Hydroxyzine 25mg
Carbidopa/Levadopa 25/100mg
Fish Oil Omega 3 - 1400mg
multi-vitamin pack
Vitamin C 500mg
Vitamin D3 50,000units, once a week
Dx: Fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome, obstructive sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome, degnerative joint disease, hypertension, diabetes type II, irritable bowel syndrome, plantar fasciitis, reactive airway disease, chronic allergies, hashimoto's disease, TMJ, morbid obesity, major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, seasonal affective disorder
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k357 Posts: 17
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Yeah well her son doesn't want me dragging his tail to the yard & kickin it for him, that will be a really painfull lesson, long as he stays away everythings cool, & I don't think he'll be stupid enough to to say anything like that to his mom again, at least within my earshot anyways. Bottom line is, him or nobody else is gonna disrespect her. If they do, there will be a problem. |
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