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01/09/2010 11:38 PM
raynedae
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Hi and welcome,

I agree with all of the above. Go on strike. Tell your 23 year-old daughter that you raised her, now it's her time to raise her kids, not yours. Then move the good TV into your bedroom, go in and shut the door. Refuse to make lunch for her kids. Refuse to cook dinner for your husband. Tell him you'll take care of his needs after he attends your doctor appointment.

Most importantly, stick to it. Don't let your daughter emotionally blackmail you into fixing lunch for HER kids. Don't worry about the mess. You may have to clean it when your daughter figures out her free ride is over and moves in with a "friend", but at least you know it won't get messed up again.

Have you ever seen the movie "Shirley Valentine?" Or "Bread & Tulips"? Watch one of those on the good TV with your bedroom door shut and locked. Enjoy Smile

rayn

I am not a medical professional so please exercise common sense when it comes to my advice.

I am also NOT a lawyer so exercise common sense when it comes to my advice.

I was a bookseller so you can trust my advice regarding books :)

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01/10/2010 12:31 AM  Top
bits
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Hi Angela

Nice to meet you.

Isn't this a wonderful group of people?

So caring, understanding, and encouraging.

I don't have much to add to all the great advice given.

I am so sorry you are going thru this with family.

You have a chronic disease and there needs (and will) to be lifestyle changes in order for YOU to have a reasonable decent quality of life.

All in your household need to pitch in and help. I know that is easier said than done.

You can not do it all. If you try it will aggravate your illness and cause a flare(s).

Your husband definitely needs to go with you to listen to and ask questions to doc.

Maybe your daughter needs to, also.

We are here for you dear and hoping and praying for your family to understand.

Gentle hugs

When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and I could say, "I used everything you gave me." ~ Erma Bombeck
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01/10/2010 06:35 PM  Top
Auntie3285
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Hi Angela,

Just another welcome to our group ~~~ we re glad you dropped in and hope you will stick around so that we may get to know you better.

I agree with what everyone else here is telling you re: your family and what you are going thru.

When we ve always done everything for them, it is a terrible vice to break to get them to do for themselves more and help you in the process.

I wish you the best and will keep you in my prayers for understanding from your family and less pain in your everyday life.

Marilyn

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