Emotional Abuse Support Group

Hello,

my name is Lisa. I recently left a boyfriend because his need for control over my life became excessive. He broke up with me many times and came back saying things would change. He would tell me what to wear, what to eat, who I could hang out with, once he told me to quit my job. If I didn't give him the amount of attention he wanted he would start fights saying how horrible of a person I was. Once I was physically ill for a week because I started talking to him after a breakup. He would make fun of me in front of his friends saying things like, "what you think doesn't matter." I blocked him from my phone and other methods of contact, but he e-mailed me letting me know he was physical with another girl, someone he had started hanging out with, the day after we stopped talking.

My self-esteem is very low right now and I am trying to deal with this pain in a healthy way. I would appreciate any advice for coping. Thanks.

Sweetie, remember that your are lovely and everything he said is not true. You will find so much comfort on here. We r all here for you!!

Sweetie, remember that your are lovely and everything he said is not true. You will find so much comfort on here. We r all here for you!!

Make sure you look yourself in the mirror and know you are special strong and beautiful.. whatever he says is not true and is sad to put you under his control and hurt you so that you get so low you dont want to leave him beacuase then you start to believe what he says.. I was in a very abusive emotionall and physically relationship an dpreg with his child at the time which didint stop him from being terrible to me. It took me 7 months to realize i did the right thing and that those terrible things he would do to me on a daily basis were not healthy and were untrue and not humane. I got my self confidence back an d am happy an dsecure being alone.. it will all take time which i hate hearing but it is true. dont worry either about him having another girl because it wont last becaus ethe way he is an ddont think for one mintue he will treat her diff because they never change and wont. I know this becuase my ex whom i have a pfa on his new gf wrote me asking me if he was abusive an dhad an angry side just after a month OMG A MONTH HE IS ALREADY TREATING HER LIKE SHIT made me feel great knowing i did do the right thing and leave him an dlfy crosss country with non of my belongings just me and my daughter.. it gets better trust me!

That guy is so nasty! Really? Is that what you want in your life?

You are a beautiful wonderful intelligent woman that does not need "a man" to stand in your way of getting what you want.

As my mother always says to me MEN are horses A-S! I hope you have not had contact with him, he does not deserve someone like you and you don't deserve to live with someone like that! You deserve to be treated like a queen!! I often lay in bed at night with my little girl and tell her that a "boy" or man in your case that kisses your hand is the only one good enough for YOU!

Remember that, you are far to good for this nonsense! He needs a reality check, who does he think he is? PUKE!

Sick, he nauseates me- I feel like I am totally going to get sick!

You take care of yourself and worry about your goals and your life! He gave up the best thing he ever had, just sayin'

Lisa,

I would put a filter on my email and automatically send his crap to the garbage bin. You are better than that and don't deserve to be treated that way.

Ginky and Lisa are so right! You deserve the utmost respect we all do, and to have to fight for that is ridiculous!!!!!!!!!!