Emotional Abuse Support Group

Hello Everyone,

My name is Janet and I just joined the group today. I have been struggling in a terrible relationship for the past 2 years. I feel ashamed because it has been my passion to help victims of domestic violence find the courage to leave their abusive partners, yet I now find myself in the same situation. You see, I was a victim of domestic violence as a child. I watched my mother get physically abused and my father hit me as well. Not to mention he was very controlling as I was growing up. I have learned that child victims of abuse oftentimes find themselves in abusive relationships as an adult. Sadly, it is true because here I am today. Who am I to give other women advise on leaving their abusers if I can't help myself? It's a sad day for me. I almost feel like a child when I am with my boyfriend, almost as if I am looking at my father's angry eyes all over again. I am hoping to gain some courage by being part of this group and from your support. I thank you all in advance for your warm encouragement.

Glad you came to the group.My husband treats me as if Im a child and he is the parent so I can relate to that.I am also from an abusive past where my family was very controlling.

We are here for you for encouragement and support.hugs

Thank you so much, WandaLynn. I really appreciate it

Janet,

Do not feel ashamed. Even now that I am able to recognize several signs of an abusive relationship, I still fear that I will get involved in another abusive relationship one day.

Abusers are very crafty and they know that you will never go out with them or agree to live with them if they are already abusive right off the bat. So they pretend to be nice and sweet and charming until you've taken the bait, and than they flip the switch and bring out their sadistic nature.

I'm real glad you are here. This forum was my saving grace and if it weren't for this forum I may have gone back to my abuser after I left him.

So do not feel ashamed. I knew I was being abused, I left and I still almost went back because he guilted me into it....but than he jumped out of my car while I was driving down the highway with our girls in the back seat...and that was pretty much it for me. LOL. Hearing his older daughter scream when she thought her father just died was enough for me and I realized that I would be damned if my other daughter ever grew up seeing her father do that.

It takes a lot for some of us to reach our breaking point. Some women are in abusive relationships because they feel they have no other option, or no way out.

A life with an abuser is not a life. I think the more time you spend here the more you'll notice how possible it is for you to leave and gain the independence you need to get away from him.

Recognizing the abuse is the first step. Doing something about it...that's where your headed now. Congratulations for making it this far in the game!

Oh gosh. What you went through is so scary Thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement. I am definitely feeling better by writing to all of you and hearing your advise. It's so nice to hear that other people went through exactly what I am going through and got out

You don't have to feel ashamed because in joining this group you have shown that you do have courage . Telling your story will inspire others. I continue to learn everyday. I witnessed domestic abuse in my home ad a child. I am not in any relationship at this time. I was married for 24 years and divorced him 6 years ago due to his substance abuse and mental cruelty. I am doing ok now and I continue to work on me. My ex however has been in and out of jail and homeless for past 6 years. I did the best i could back then and I have no regrets. As you read and educate yourself you will help YOU and others in the process