Emotional Abuse Support Group

Hello everyone. I have been told by two therapist now that my husband of five years is emotionally abusive. He is extremely jealous and controlling. He has accussed me of having affairs with everyone from my female personal trainer to my neighbor. He constantly check my emails and cell phone bills. I cannot go anywhere without being questioned incessantly. The thing is, I cannot bring myself to grips to believe that I allowed this to happen for so many years. I have a 3 year old son, and have hesitated time and time again to get a divorce because of him. How do you find the strength to leave? I have finally retained a lawyer, but I am still so scared of his reaction. My therapist has diagnosed me with adjustment disorder and being co-dependent. I don't love this man, yet I still find myself not wanting to hurt his feelings, and scared of his reaction.

I know I am long winded, I am just so confused and scared. I don't want to be alone, but I am so miserable here. Help!

Hi, I am new to the group as well and suffer from the same issues as you. I have also been to two therapists over the course of the past few years who have diagnosed my relationship as emotionally abusive. I have been working on educating myself in various ways. Perhaps some research regarding how an emotionally abusive relationship affects children might be helpful to you? You've already come so far! Seeking a lawyer is a HUGE step and you should be very proud of the progress you have made!

Hi Ladies, just to share and to let you know that the inability to leave is more common than you think...

Me and my husband got a divorce this week and I still live with him. Every day he tells me that he wants to get remarried, he doesn't understand how I could just fall out of love with him, and basically goes over our whole relationship from beginning to end. I know this has been an emotionally abusive relationship, but still can't go for some of the same reasons like hurting his feelings, breaking his heart, scared of his reaction, even if just verbal, he can be so harsh and make me feel like crap for just feeling what I'm feeling. On the day of the divorce I felt like "YAY, I'm free", but I'm still not.

I wonder every day what happened to my strong will and independent mind... why can't I just do what would be soooooooooo simple, pack up the little I have, and just go somewhere. I think about the calls I would get calling me a cold hearted bitch, I never loved him, just all types of insults and name calling. I just need to Woman up and go, and then block his number and presence completely from my life.