Emotional Abuse Support Group

I think my bf is starting to sense he's losing me. That, or he's about to cheat. Topix.com is a gossipy website, but I know for a fact he uses it. Yesterday there were 2 posts on there-1with his ex wifes name and one with the ex gfs name. I also know for a fact that he's been on there bashing his ex wife before, which seems to be his intent yet again. But regarding his ex gf he's asking if anyone knows how to reach her. We have been fighting like crazy lately, maybe he just wants a quick rendezvous with her. Either way, blows my mind. I have NEVER questioned his fidelity up until this point.

Today I got called a fvcking cunt. That's a first for me. Silly me for standing up for myself when he started in on me. But 2 hours later he loved me again. Atleast til I called to tell him goodnight, then it was back to hatefulness.

Had my interview today for the job transfer, but I'm really not feeling it. Hoping the other one comes thru.

This girl, his ex, that he's digging up info on, she had no job, was a party girl, lost custody of her son.... Yet he moved her in within months if dating. Here I have been with him over a year and only get 2 days a month from him. Blows my mind and makes me feel so incredibly worthless.

Hopefully, all of this shows you how little regard he has for ANY woman ... period. He's a user, plain and simple. He used his ex-wife. He used his ex-gf and he used you too. I'm sure that like his ex-gf, he will be back in your life again someday in the future trying to get his foot in the door to use you again.

You deserve much MUCH better than this, honey.

He moved his ex in so quickly because he saw how easily he could mold her. She had nothing and he could give her everything (that's his way of thinking). Don't beat yourself up over it. It just shows that he knew you were much harder to mold to his liking.

As far as his little website. Do what I would do. Make up a fake name or have friend do it and go on the site yourself. Find a few pictures from the internet and upload them as yourself even though it could be some chick in Europe. ANyway, start talking to him and see what he says to you on their. If there is any inkling that he wants to meet up then you have your answer.

Shoot, I'd do it for you if it didn't cost money.

If it were a dating website, I'd do that!! However, it's just a gossip forum and NO ONE on there has pictures. Mainly people just come on there to talk about politics, the weather, etc. Every now and then you get "Did you guys see Becky out on Saturday, what a drunk wh-re" or "Hey, help me find my lost kitten", or in his case "Anyone know how to get in touch with Melissa?".

But thanks for the idea!

Amazingly, nothing surprises me anymore. I think you were both right in your replies to me and I appreciate the things you had to see. I need a dose of reality just about every day now.

Really, I don't think you need to go through all that nonsense. You know what you're dealing with. If it looks like a duck and it walks like a duck and it acts like a duck, it's a duck. You're an intelligent woman.