Emotional Abuse Support Group

Hi girls,

Has anyone else suddenly started having dreams about their abuser after 10 months of leaving.

I left last August, and thought i was finally getting underway of not letting him affect me anymore. He has had no contact since i called the cops on him in March.

The past week, i have been having these dreams of me begging him to take me back, asking his mom to help me get him back, anything to do with trying to win HIM back. Is this normal?

The only thing i can think of that might be sparking them, is my lawyer is in the process of getting me my hlaf of the house, etc, and I feel a little guilty putting him in a situation to owe me so much money (i know thats silly after everything he has put me through).

Or is it the fact that my family is hurting me every chance they can again? and its making me miss the way things were?

I dont know, my head is spinning with all these "maybe's"

Honey, I've been away from my abuser for YEARS and I still have an occasional dream about him. I always wake up panicked and depressed until I realize it was just a dream. I have had no contact with him for over 10 years. It just proves to me how deep the abuse goes into our brains.

I just had a nightmare last night about my father, and I haven't spoken to him in nearly 2 years! I haven't seen him in even longer than that!

I agree with Meg... I think it just shows you how deeply rooted the abuse goes into our minds, and I think in dreams our minds process things in a weird unconscious sort of way that we don't necessarily do when we're awake. Take it as a sign that your mind is cleaning out the old clutter!

You girls are always right!!!! And thank you for giving me another way of looking at it. It makes me so angry that they all put us through such nonsense. No one deserves what they have put us threw. I know it has made me a better, stronger person in the end and i have to keep looking at those outcomes!!

Thanks again!!! <3