Emotional Abuse Support Group

I thought about leaving my abuser..the only thing is my kids. I had a talk with them. Did not go as well as I would have wont'd it. My kids does not want to go. They love there school..my son is in basketball and he has lots of friends and my daughter is in cheerleading and she has all of her friends as well.

I have no family where I am at..I have a few friends but not many.

I see how well there marraige is going so I don't bother them with my problems.

I feel like this group is more my family......I have talked to a lot of nice people in here and have given me a lot of good advise

I cant leave my kids behind.....what do I do...

I was going to suggest the same thing? an apartment or townhouse in the area so you can keep them close to everything they know.

What about a shelter in your area? I know thats not ideal, but they have resources that can help you with these kinds of things too!

I know it's difficult for kids, but if they aren't being abused yet, they soon will be. Maybe in another year or two. In the meantime, you need to take care of yourself. Maybe this would be a good time for you to get counseling and you could discuss this issue with a counselor.

Just for an added perspective, when I was 13, we moved to a brand new city. I was heartbroken to leave my friends behind. I hated my parents for moving us so far away. I started a new school that fall where I didn't know one single soul, but guess what? I met my very best friend ever in that school. We have been best friends for 30+ years now. We were both matrons of honor at each other's weddings, we were pregnant at the same time and gave birth to baby girls five weeks apart.

Life is full of new beginnings ... new schools, new jobs, new homes, new neighborhoods.

I agree with Meg.. sometimes parents have to do what is best for the child, even if the child doesn't understand and/or objects at the time. Abusers WILL eventually abuse the children (or at the very least, give them a pretty lousy example to learn from). This will especially become true when kids start to assert their own independence... Just like your abuser doesn't like it when you try to assert yours. When kids are little adoring ego-feeding-factories, abusers can appear to be great fathers at times, but as you know... that's not what parenting is all about!

Yes, do what's best for you and your kids!!