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03/26/2012 10:40 AM

I hate the way I feel today


Post edited by: sangria1944, at: 03/26/2012 02:42 PM

03/26/2012 11:20 AM
Meg1129Posts: 14598
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He can shove a gun in your face and call it love, but that doesn't mean it is. He IS being abusive. Stomping down your boundaries is abusive. That is the definition of abuse.

Just for my own curiousity, I looked up the definition of "abuse" in the dictionary and here is what I found:

Definition of ABUSE


: a corrupt practice or custom


: improper or excessive use or treatment : misuse <drug abuse>


obsolete: a deceitful act : deception


: language that condemns or vilifies usually unjustly, intemperately, and angrily


: physical maltreatment

Sounds like everything you are experiencing and interestingly, physical maltreatment is at the bottom of the list.

03/26/2012 11:27 AM

Post edited by: sangria1944, at: 03/26/2012 02:43 PM

03/26/2012 11:59 AM
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Violating your personal space and boundaries like that is certainly abuse. No question. He's even manipulating your ability to sleep which is textbook abuser behavior!

03/26/2012 01:47 PM
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Mine did the same to me. I would sleep on 1/4th of the bed to get away from him. He always wanted me to touch him and when i wouldn't, he would tell me I didn't love him and bitch. He wanted me to hug him and lay on his arm when he had spent the night being abusive.

In the mornings when he didn't work, I always made sure I was up first or he would "dick" me. He would poke me with his penis and be very suggestive. I would tell him over and over to leave me alone, but he wouldn't so I started getting up before him.

Also, he was ALWAYS on my side. I would push his legs over with my legs and he always accused me of kicking him. I knew better than that.

03/26/2012 02:00 PM

sangria1944,Abuse and agression takes many forms.He has just changed his form of abuse.He has not stopped being abusive.The fact that he cannot fathom that is just another huge red flag that he is indeed an abuser.Forcing attention onto you that you do not want IS abuse.Not respecting your feelings IS abuse.There IS a way out and it is called the door.



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