Emotional Abuse Support Group

I just got out of mental and emotional abusive relationship I am s senior at in high school. I was in a relationship with this guy for over a year and a half all of junior year and part of this year.With the help of my parents and the police I was able to get out of the relationship.Now that its over I don't know how to move on. At first it was like thank god im out . Even though the abuse has stoped the situation still effects me.I feel angery sad ashamed empty . I wasted a year and half of my life. I lost myself. The situation changed me and I don't know how to get back.I feel stuck. A lot of people think that just because im out its over but the journey has just began. Its like after being stabbed, when you pull the knife out the bleeding starts....I need help.I need support.I need closure.I need to heal.

danni17,I'm glad you found the courage and strength to end your abusive relationship.It takes time to heal and recover after you have been abused.I can tell you for sure that it does get better.The feelings you are having are not unusual.Call your local domestic violence program and ask about getting some counseling.It will help you.You can find them by calling the national domestic violence hotline at 1-800-799-7233.Keep moving forward with your life in a positive direction.Have no contact with your ex abuser.You can do it!I believe in you.

HUGS.Lanna

Hi and welcome to the group! You're right ... a lot of people think that leaving an abusive relationship puts an end to it, but it doesn't. It's kind of like having a baby. When you're pregnant, so much focus is on childbirth and then after that's over with, it's like, "OMG, now what do I do?"

Lanna is right about the counseling. It helped me tremendously. I also recommend a great book called, "It's My Life Now: Starting Over After An Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence" by Meg Kennedy Dugan. I put a link to it below on Amazon where you can read reviews of it and a chapter for free right now, but you can get it anywhere, even your public library. If your library doesn't have it, ask about inter-library loans.

http://www.amazon.com/Its-My-Life-Now-Relationship/dp/ 0415923581/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1332729841&sr=1-1

Thank you for sharing it helped me so much to read your post. I am struggling with the same thing...I feel stuck too. I know that it is normal but it is frustrating and painful. It is as you said the knife has been pulled out and the bleeding begins. I just keep putting one foot in front of the other, deal with the emotions that arise and hope that forward movement will come. I have more good days than bad know. We (my daughters and I) were emotionally abused by a Teacher for about three years...she would not get out of our lives (stalking, calling, coming to our home) She had three dui's under her belt and still kept coming at us...along with all her influential friends (her third DUI arrest gave us some relief even her influential friends distanced themselves from her after that but it rocked the foundation of our world....and we had a great world before she stepped into it and we want our world back. Rebuilding is hard!