Emotional Abuse Support Group

I believe in signs that show us we are making the right choices and are following the path we are meant to take. Since the day I left my abusive husband (last Thursday), I have been seeing these signs and I know things will be as they are meant to be.

In a week, I've gotten government services for my kids and me, set up three free counseling sessions for my kids, gotten my old bank account set up again, my kids are getting free school supplies, breakfasts, and lunches, they've made friends and are enjoying their new school, been educated on legal proceedings, went to a wonderful Al-Anon group that spoke about frustrations and I came away feeling more empowered and less attached to my abuser, and the most wonderful thing is that I found, after several searches, a counselor who is educated in abuse and works with children so she can help my kids and me.

All this in a week. If someone would've told me one month ago this was gonna happen, I would've NEVER believed it. God is good.

Life Awaits,

thank you for posting this for I was thinking this same exact thought today. I keep getting tested by God left and right. As soon as I tackle something, the next lesson comes. The crazy thing is that I intuitively know this. It is like I created this whole plan and left myself signs along the way and God is gently pushing me along... (I am a slow learner) But yes, signs are everywhere. Congrats! I am really happy for you!

Thank you. I am happy that you can recognize the signs. Someone gave me a suggestion today and my immediate reaction was to do what they said because my abuser taught me he knows best, but I overcame this knee-jerk reaction and decided to listen to my intuition because it hasn't failed me.

And here's another good thing ... I don't think he's re-joined our forum since I banned him last! He isn't stalking you via text or phone, is he?

I am so happy that everything is falling into place for you! You really deserve to be happy and so do your children.

I'm sure he's joined and is reading everything I post. I don't care anymore. I won't let him inhibit me anymore. He is harassing me via text and emails. I've finally got it in his head I want a divorce and we will not be getting back together. He's going to counseling and professing how much he's changed although when he sexually abused me, he was "just mad."

He can spread his lies to his family because I'm not listening anymore. You were right Meg, it's two steps forward and one step back.

Have you thought about contacting the police about his harrassment? It might be helpful to file a complaint now since he isn't letting up... I can't remember what it is called, but it's like a mini-restraining order just saying he can't call you obsessively/message you/etc. I've heard that abusers that violate the "harrassment" order can sometimes make it easier to get a real restraining order if that became necessary. Just a thought!

I'm so very proud of you though! You've really done some amazing work here and it's truly inspiring. Keep up the great work! If you're ever feeling down or weak (and in this process, you probably will), I urge you to refer back to this post. Particularly I liked when you said "All this in a week. If someone would've told me one month ago this was gonna happen, I would've NEVER believed it." It IS possible and you're proof!

Consider this too ... if you file a complaint against him, it will document his harassment and could be used as evidence in court.

It's interesting that you said you think he's joined us and is reading everything you post because I keep tabs on the new members who join this board and someone joined right after I banned him, but has remained in lurker mode. Not unusual, but the screen name kind of made me think twice.

Post edited by: Meg1129, at: 02/16/2012 03:05 PM

Lifeawaits,You really should consider filing a restraining order against him.Document his harassment.He is highly outnumbered here.You have the support of everyone who posts here.That is alot of people.It is not Meg's and my first rodeo dealing with abusers.We will deal with him if he shows up again.He was extremely transparent the last time.In the meantime be careful that you do not reveal sensitive information on the forum.

And way to go with all you have accomplished!!!

HUGS.Lanna

I want to post this web site one more time www.WomensLaw.org. This is a terrific resource for legal information and help with domestic violence situations.You can just click on the link I have listed here.They have a drop down menu with information on almost every area.There IS help available.You may have to search for it but it IS there.

Lanna

Meg, I think I know who you are talking about... I've been a bit suspicious as well.