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Schefflera Posts: 3557
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Merlin, I'm so glad you got the book! I was truly stunned when I first started reading it along with other books on emotional abuse. Even though the main focus for my healing is on the abuse I suffered from my father, I found that it was easy to apply a heck of a lot of what Bancroft wrote to my own father. The dynamics and the situation are different, but the motivations are always the same. In a way though it almost cheapened my experience, and I mean this in a good way: Seeing that his behavior was almost straight out of the Abuser Handbook somehow made it less powerful to me and it became easier to analyze and handle. It's like knowing how the magician does all his tricks: suddenly we're not so impressed and mystified anymore, and in fact, it's almost sad and pathetic to see how predictable abusers are. |
