I know it is unhealthy. I didn't initially realize that. I had absolutley no idea about the hold that his dad had on him at first. I knew that he helped his mom out a lot and that seemed sweet at first. As things progressed, I became more and more frustrated about things and began to wonder where I really stood and what it was going to be like once we got married. I was afraid that I would always come last; that I'd always be competeing with his parents for his attention. I do feel sorry for them, too. I did like his mom but I really had trouble with her involvement as our relationship progressed. I felt like nothing was private - that he told her everything that I told him and then she would get involved by giving me advice. The advice often stressed me out more. I tried not to be short with her but when she called me up and told me that he'd told her about my son having so many issues and that she felt I should stop giving him sugar and that would solve his problems...well, that's when I expressed my irritation a bit more openly. I feel sorry for Scott because, in a sense, it seems like he fills the role of a husband for his mother since her actual husband doesn't treat her well or really do anything for her. Maybe Scott resents his role as he did often seem to get a tone with his mom and he would sometimes roll his eyes when she called...but he allows the relationship to be the way it is so essentially he has made the choice. Post edited by: yellowbug, at: 12/02/2011 01:34 PM |
