Readytoheal.... I'm so excited for you. My final custody hearing is September 8th. Katie will be one month shy of her 2nd birthday. Three more weeks! I doubt if it was your attorney...are you going for custody or divorce or both? My attorney set it up as soon as possible for a full court hearing because my ex refuses to acknowledge the summons and he has missed the last three court pretrial hearings. It just depends on what is on your judge's docket. Depending on your case, your Attorney may have purposefully chosen this judge so that it could be more favorable towards you...I think thats how it works. My lawyer told me that my judge's main concern isn't over what they've done in the past...but he is concerned about people who need to be on medication that aren't taking their meds. My ex has been diagnosed with depression, but not by a psychologist. He was on medication for a couple months but than he stopped because he couldn't afford it. I've since found him affordable treatment based on a sliding scale fee, but now he argues that he doesn't have the time to get help. And to him, him not having the time to get help or not having the money get help shouldn't validate my reasons for taking Katie away from him. The fact is, he can longer use this crap as an excuse to not get help. My daughter's safety comes first. Don't worry about your anniversary. Your not with him anymore, it really isn't an anniversary. Just hang in there, you can do it, I know you can! Avoid him, avoid the shit out of him. Don't talk to him, don't answer his calls, don't validate any bad behavior he throws your way. Just make yourself forget that he exists and before long, he will be nothing but a distant memory. I'm routing for you! "Well behaved women rarely make history!" |
