Emotional Abuse Support Group

Jon apparently took a swab test...but he passed caue he was in jail for a week and he knew when CPS was coming and didn't smoke for a few days so that he could pass it. Right afterwards, he made a trip over to my next door neighbors to buy marijuana..all the while he has the nerve to tell me that he didn't have the time to see Katie that day...I'm like..wtf?

I didn't rat out my neighbor...I appreciate his honesty and knowing what I know is a great deal even if I can't reveal all of it.

Well he started pressuring me again to let him have Katie unsupervised. He called me today and he keeps going on and on about how I have no valid reason to take her away from him, etc..etc.. I hung up the phone, cause honestly I already know where this is going. He only listens to himself which are all LIES and it turns into a tempertantrum and he starts screaming and yelling obscenities about how trashy me and my family are.

So he calls my mother BAWLING his eyes out. At first she felt bad for him. But than he starts talking about how wrong I am and how he doesn't understand where I get off on acting like I am better than him, etc, etc...mom starts telling him about all of my concerns and why I'm afraid for my daughter to be around him, and he starts screaming at her, verbally abusing her, calling her a bitch and a cunt and white trash and he starts in about my father being lazy and trashy with hair growing out of his ears and what not...totally put my mother in tears. She said, "How dare you! We took you in, we took care of your daughter, we let you live here for free, Casey drove your daughter to school while you were sitting on your ass shooting heroin up your arm, Casey went to college while she as pregnant and went to work while she was pregnant and you did nothing but sit on your ass and collect unemployment and spent 500 a month on heroin. You gave my daughter a staff infection, you gave Katie 3. You made my daughter bail you out of jail because you were going through withdrawals. You made Casey take your daughter with her to class one day while she was taking a test because you had to go play disc golf....how dare you!" He started laughing at her and said..."It was 1 TIME!"...I could hit him right now for what he's said to my mother.

Mom also mentioned to him that his violent behavior was a concern of mine...he got upset and was like...Casey's the one who is violent. Casey hit me three times, I never called the cops on her...and I could have thrown her in jail but I loved her. Mom than told him, you don't consider destroying our wall and two of our doors abusive behavior? She reminded him of when he jumped out of the car while we were driving down the highway. Than he started telling her that we had a secret relationship back in January and that I lied to her about being with him the night that I got into the car accident and that it wasn't the 18 wheelers fault, that it was mine...he told her I've been lieing to her about everything all this time...and she told him...Jon..she may have lied to me about that...but your the one who is lieing about everything else.

I love how he tries to "act" right all this time and tries to make me feel like he's changed and that I'm crazy..and than he pulls this shit.

He told my mom that he's not going to show up for court, that his lawyer is going to keep post poning over and over and making us spend all of our money.

And my mom told him, "Well you obviously don't want custody that bad."

So Jon told her he was on his way to pick up Katie right now...he still hasn't shown up. He accused me of lieing about having the Protective Order..I've got it sitting on my kitchen counter right now, waiting for him to show up with the police.

He's shooting himself in the foot either way. One, its not his weekend to have her, two I have a protective order, 3 he doesn't have a drivers license...I don't think the cops are going to let him drive off with my daughter with out one.

I am very disappointed in the way CPS handled things....but what else can I do?

He kept going on about how he's been on his own since he was 16..and my mom was like...you haven't been on your own, you lived with us for free for two years and your living at your moms now...that really pissed him off.

And than he was bragging about his family and how they are educated and stand up citizens...and I'm thinking...your family might be educated, but your not. He got expelled from school when he was 15 for stealing a security guard radio...among many other things I am sure.

He has an assault on his record from when he was with Marsha. He threw something during one of their arguments that hit her in the face and her mom saw it the next day and they pressed charges...and than he convinced Marsha to come bail him out because it was bullshit that he was in jail for hitting her.

He really hasn't been on his own since he was 16. He moved out and got into heavy drugs with his sister. Than he moved in with his father...than he moved back with his mom...than he moved in with his grandmother...than his moms...than his grandmother..than his moms...than his grandmothers...while he was living with his grandmother he met some people that paid him money to smuggle illegal immigrants from Mexico into the country...all the money he made from that he spent on hotels and drugs...than he stopped cause he didn't want to get caught...than he moved in with Marsha and her parents...and than with just Marsha because her parents didn't like the way he treated her...and low and behold two years of being on his own...and than he moves in with me and makes my life a living hell. He really is an ungreatful SOB.

He keeps insisting that what I'm asking for is impossible and that he shouldn't witheld from his daughter.

I don't think he would ever intentionally hurt her, but he's fallen asleep behind the wheel SEVERAL times and he's wrecked two of my cars. He also didn't even really watch her when she was over there for the weekend....he lays down on the couch and smokes pot while his mother mows the front lawn, the back yard lawn, and maintains the pool and cooks. While he's laying on the couch, he watches TV and makes Jennifer watch Katie. When he and I were fighting he would constantly put Jennifer in the middle of it and tell her to tell me that I was wrong for what I was doing to her daddy...which only made her cry or get nervous.

The problem I have is that I can tell EVERYONE else about his behavior but when I try to explain it to him, he manipulates or lies his way out of it and talking to him is absolutely pointless. So frustrating.

I am so glad your Ma is standing up for you! And she is standing up to him. That is just great. He can keep playing his little games until he snags himself in his own web. I mean really if he is using marajuana, then he could get pulled over for a traffic ticket, and get caught. He sounds so sloppy in how he handles his life, that it is just a matter of time before he gets in a bind.

Thank you Reactionary,

Yeah your right. His favorite place to smoke marijuana is in the car while he is driving!

He's been snagging himself for 16 years now and somehow he still hasn't learned. Pitiful.

i can't STAND when they do this. they try and play victim to get what they want. stay strong! Jon doesn't deserve your patience. i'm so proud of you for not budging!