Emotional Abuse Support Group

Twilli, just wondering what's going on in your house now since your husband attacked you last weekend. Is he staying away from you now? Did you tell your lawyer what happened?

Post edited by: Meg1129, at: 05/28/2011 08:08 AM

He is staying away! Thank goodness! I called my attorney and told his assistant and she was extremely concerned for my safety. She said we may need to get him out of the house. I told her I cannot pay the 1750$ mortgage. She told my attorney and he called that afternoon at the same time my cell didn't have service. I have not talked to him yet. I will be seeing him next week.

I have an idea. My son, 19, works in our business. My idea is to keep this house and mortgage 150,000. Buy him mower, trimmer, blower, and trailer and we start our own business next spring. I will front the money and keep the books and he will do the work. He is all for it. I am just worried taking on 150,000 is too much. So I am asking God to help memake the best choice for me, my son, and my daughter.

We have a showing today at 2!

I also called my counselor she asked me if I could move out. She also said to keep the domestic violence shelter number on speed dial.

Post edited by: twilli12, at: 05/28/2011 08:23 AM

I like your idea! Can you refinance the house? You will be getting child support too ... at the very least.

I called our mortgage person who did this house ans she said to do this before we split the business and I will qualify easily. The major hurdle is my husband would have to buy me out of our property so I could get the mortgage down to 150,000. If he would everthing else is a shoe in! ?onthly payment would be 1055. a 3 bedroom apartment here is 850. So I am not that much over rent anyways. Plus a lawn business can be very profitable if you can manage money...which I can so....I have to ask him. Ugh.

Sounds like a brilliant plan Twilli, for you and your son. If it's meant to be it will be.

xxx

I know you can do this! You are doubting yourself because he has robbed you of all your self-confidence, since the payments are only $205.00 more than rent, and you will have a large nest egg in the bank when you spilt all the assets don't forget, so you are in excellant finacial shape as far as I can see. Plus you are still going to do that medical billing on the side as well, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't do this!! You deserve to have your house if at all possible, and be successful and I know you can make this work. If "J" doesn't do it, just hire one person at first and build from there. Sending you positive thoughts!!!

Twilli,In the meantime I strongly suggest getting a deadbolt lock for your bedroom door.I would not be suprised if he pulled that again.

Lanna

Do you think he would buy you out?

I am not sure Meg. He will only do it if it benefits him. I haven't thought of a way to say it so he will think that.

Well, maybe you can post that on the board and we can all brainstorm it for you. Lots of great minds here!