It sounds cliche to say it but it is so true.Life is to short to spend it being abused.Your life is a precious,valuable gift.It is worth more than anything you own.No matter what an abuser says you deserve to be happy.You deserve to put yourself first for a change.It is NOT selfishness.It is self-love.Are you willing to put the same amount of time and effort into loving yourself that you have into an abuser?My life was almost taken from me by my abuser.I never saw it coming.I did not want to believe it could happen to me.It did.My ex abuser did not beat me everyday.He did not have to.He used fear and intimidation to control me most of the time.When that did not work he resorted to physical abuse. My own ex abuser blamed me for everything that went wrong in his life.He was never responsible for anything he said or did.It was always somehow my fault.From the way I ate to the way I vacuumed the floor.He felt the need to control everything. The day finally came when I realized that I deserved better than the way I was being treated.I wanted a better life for myself and my child.My son did not deserve to live with the pain and fear of watching his Mother being abused.He did not deserve to live with the tension and arguing.I wanted a better life for myself and my child.But no one was going to do it for me.I had to find the courage somewhere within myself.No one was going to take my life back for me. Life is to short to spend it being abused in ANY way.Do not wait to leave and then wake up ten years from now or five years from now and realize that you are more depleted physically,emotionally,financially and in every way.Get out before this happens. Lanna Post edited by: Lanna, at: 02/09/2011 01:39 PM |
"When I was diagnosed about 18 months ago with fibromyalgia, I didn't know where to turn. I got on my computer and looked for a support group where I could talk to other people with the same disease and get some help...Information, suggestions, mostly just what I can do now that I have this.....disorder/disease/syndrome...I didn't even know what to call it. I found MDJ, and yes, there was a support group for fibro. I started a post, and figured I would never get an answer. However, very quickly I was welcomed in, and became really involved in the group. I received help, support, friendship and the feeling of being truly cared about by these strangers who had become like family to me. Now, I have been here for about a year and a half...I have become a group leader, and love every minute of it. It is so wonderful to be able to help others. I still receive help and answers from the members in this group. The fibromyalgia is where I go to help, support, listen, care and even laugh. I don't know what I would do without this group." (mabri)
