Emotional Abuse Support Group

Hi,

Just found this site and well i am happy that i did. Although I am not sure if i am "part" of the rite group or not. You see I am not being emotionally abused. I am the abuser. I am not proud to say it but I am abusive to my husband all the time. I call him names nothing is ever good enough its consant, and if I keep this behavior up my marriage will be over. My husband is Wonderful I am so lucky to have him. I do believe that but i continue to belittle him. I honestly do not know why. I really dont. I have done that in every single relationship I have been in. Granted this is the first healthly one. The previous relations were abusive on both sides. Anyway just wanted to share. Anyones input is welcome

Occasionally we have gotten people on the other side of the fence, but I would say that 99.9% of the people here are victims of abusers. Perhaps it will help you to understand what you are doing to your husband by reading the stories of other victims on this board. The effects of verbal and emotional abuse go much deeper than many abusers seem to realize. Maybe you should consider getting counseling for yourself to find out what drives you to abuse your husband.

Meg said it all. But the first thing is you really have to commit to changing. You can't just say you want to change. By abusing your husband in some ways you have lost honest love and trust in the relationship, and that is something that will take time to heal. I do want to applaud you that your recognize what you are doing... that is always the first step. But now it is up to you to stop the abuse. If you have children, you do not want them to learn that it is ok to abuse people and make them feel the way you make your husband feel. Good luck with things and welcome... I hope as you evolve that you have a better understanding about how horrible abuse is, why you do it, how to stop, and earn his trust and love back in a positive way. You might want to ask yourself if you were abused, or if you witnessed it in your own life growing up. It is just a suggestion and a place to start.

LL